You finally, or unexpectedly, become a father or mother. You have a little one. The baby, of course, is just a baby; there's not much you can do about that. But as your child gets older, you may find that it all gets a little disappointing.
What if you wake up one day and you think "I don't like my child." That's not helpful at all, because your child will always be your child. So what can you do to change this feeling toward your child?
There are several moments in your child's life when you may be balking at it. In this blog, we take a brief look at those moments and how hypnosis might help you then.
When your child is still small
Small children are treasures and monsters in one. One of the monstrous problems small children can have is that they won't eat what you have prepared.
Every meal is a struggle to get enough nutrition into your child's body, and this can have negative effects on your bond with your child, such as not liking your child at all. You may also suffer from anxiety about feeding your child as a result, and that doesn't help the cause either[1].
After all, it's no fun when you've done your best to serve a delicious healthy meal only to have it tossed aside by the little prince or princess.
In cases like this, you can already like your child a lot more when things just go a little easier. With knowledge of child hypnosis, you can help your child change their perception of taste so that they do like vegetables, for example.
The great thing about child hypnosis is that it actually works the same as adult hypnosis, but you adapt the language you use to the child's level and experience.
You can also use self-hypnosis, or see a hypnotherapist, to avoid taking your child's behavior personally. For example, you can look at your own beliefs about parenting, child behavior and how you think everything should be.
Maybe these don't make sense at all, or even hinder you from building a good relationship with your child. This may be very unconscious, but figuring that out is something a hypnotherapist will help you with.
In any case, researchers indicate that in addition to improving the bond between parent and child, hypnosis helps parents communicate with their child. So that they establish a fine bond and promote rather than hinder the achievement of goals[2].
When your child is puberty
If your child is a little older, seems almost mature, yet can make very stupid decisions, your child is puberty. During this period, they want to be independent and know everything better. The realization that you have already gone through their stage of life once is not really there, and otherwise it was "before" when everything was "different". So what do you know 😉.
That can be quite annoying.
Even with adolescents, knowledge of hypnosis is useful for parenting and to keep everything a bit in check. Especially for character development[3]. So if your child's character does not suit you. Suppose your child does not yet have perseverance or something similar, you can influence that with clever suggestions.
If your child is an adult
If your child is already an adult, there is little you can do to change your child. After all, you don't see your child on a daily basis. So then you can really only work primarily with yourself.
For parents of adult children, it is often especially important to know for yourself that you have done your best and that how your child is now is really his or her own choice.
You can't really do more than be there for your child.
The most important thing now is to indicate to your child your own limits. So indicate with compassion what you can and cannot do for your child. For example, if your child asks for a lot of money, and you don't have it or can't give it for some other reason, it's important to communicate that.
What place does your child have?
Regardless of your child's age, you can work with social panorama hypnosis techniques to improve the bond between you and your child.
We've heard stories of parents who had a child who literally told them they didn't love him or her, but the other parent did. Of course, that doesn't make you happy. This parent applied the social panorama.
With this technique, you go to what place you put your family members. You then imagine that you are standing in an empty room and then determine where your partner stands and where your children stand.
Then you can move those people in your mind, and that can produce amazing results[4]. I noticed this myself with my oldest son when he was already in puberty, and we hear stories from others for whom this has worked with young children.
By changing something in themselves, somehow the bond with the child changed immediately, and this was reflected in the child's communication, which became much more loving.
It can be your own hypnosis
In addition, it's always good to double-check that it's not your own problem. For example, how did one of your parents view you? Did they not like you at all? And are you now completely accidentally copying this? Did you copy that hypnosis[5]?
At Hypnosis Institute Netherlands, we also call this a generational problem. Something unconsciously passed down generation to generation, until someone is smart enough to notice and do something about it.
You have a sickly child
Life is not always easy, and some people have a child who has a chronic illness that is very difficult. For example, a severe form of autism can be very stressful for parents. Which undermines the enjoyment of parenthood.
In cases like this, hypnosis can also be a godsend to change your outlook on the impact of the disease and to have a way to cope with the stress the disease brings.
Research on the impact of hypnotherapy in parents who have a child with autism shows that it helps to have less worry about your child's future . This helps to reduce stress caused by those worries, which is good for your overall well-being as a parent and allows you to enjoy parenthood more[6].
Does your child have not a chronic disease, but a (potentially) deadly one? If so, things are just as exciting. In cases like this, hypnosis can be beneficial for parents and child. Research shows that hypnosis can be used to relieve the anxiety, fatigue and stress caused by a seriously ill child. This can also improve your mutual relationship with the child and the other parent[7].
It's secretly more about parenting itself
It may not even be because of your child that you don't like your child, but because of parenting itself. Not being able to sleep in anymore, always making responsible choices, the poopy diapers, the sassy nature of an adolescent, the extra costs. It's just not what you expected.
In that case, hypnosis can also be a solution.
Your expectations about parenthood can be adjusted, shifting your focus from what is not fun about being a father or mother to what is.
Through gratitude exercises, regression and other techniques, you can already do a lot to be more satisfied with parenthood.
With knowledge of hypnosis, you can get a lot done with self-hypnosis. In the process, with the knowledge of hypnosis, you can also help other parents enjoy parenthood more, experience less stress, and be able to express love to their child without barriers.
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Sources:
[1] https://www.paediatricsandchildhealthjournal.co.uk/article/S1751-7222(17)30091-4/fulltext
