Before you have success in your life, you have progress in your life. You can already think of progress or advancement as success, too. But when do you have progress in your life and why do you sometimes feel like you're standing still? How do you get yourself to walk again, literally or not. But usually mostly mentally.
Progression meaning
When you look up progression in the dictionary of Van Dale you get the following result: "1 progress 2 stepwise ascent" So it's about progress.
So what's going on when you feel like you're not moving forward? Then you are sitting where you are and you are stuck in your life. Being stuck in your life often means being stuck in your beliefs and in certain fears.
Fear prevents progression
For example, one fear that prevents progression is fear of failure. Every time you fail, you still make some kind of progression. You get a little further each time. So fear of failure should really be called the fear of moving forward, and that already sounds a lot stranger. Because wouldn't you want to get ahead?
Some people don't, but that's much more frightening. In nature, it's very simple, either you grow or you die out. Then people with fear of failure would fear growth more than death. Also crazy.
That's often not how these people see it, but when you think about it, that's what's going on. A baby trying to walk very often fails. But does make progress.
His muscles get stronger, balance gets better and so at some point he can take his first step.
And then he fails again when he tries to run....
Failure is so delicious.
Fail as much as you can in your life. That's the most fun there is. (Because at some point that kid does manage to run)
Most fun? Well, it's not very fun, but every week I fail at least once. Usually at sports, sometimes during work and very occasionally during conversations with my wife.
And then there are plenty of other contexts in which I occasionally fail.
I fail more than I experience success.
Happy!
Look, success is nice you know, but also very fleeting. If I achieve that then...
Then you feel too crazy for a moment and there's already the next one. And so you go on and on.
I love that too. Creating, performing, putting something down, achieving something, winning and getting stronger. But once that's achieved, that's great, but then that's over in a flash. I fail much more often than I win.
Just yesterday during the workout. Failed, failed, but got stronger. Made progression though. So you could say I did make it....
Hmmm...
So fear of failure is one such fear that can prevent progression, advancement. And this can be about progress with Crossfit (what if I can't lift those weights?), but it can also be about social progress (what if I tell my wife I don't like the food?) and making your relationship work.
Social anxiety and progression
Another fear that can stop progression is social anxiety. The fear of success is often the fear that your environment cannot handle your success. That your family and friends will become unreasonably jealous.
But tell the truth: If that comes true, don't you want to know, don't you want to find out who your true friends are and then celebrate your success with them?
Another social fear is that when you then speak up to get that promotion, for example, people won't think you're good enough.
Or getting rejected.
Illness and progression
So maybe you've always progressed and fallen ill.
Shit, that's really annoying.
Your body is letting you down, and this can do all sorts of things to you. You may not be able to do as much anymore or you may have developed other problems because of it that prevent you from feeling like you are moving forward.
Progression stops, but how do you get it going again when you've fallen ill?
What often happens when you're sick is that you see mostly what you can't do anymore and what all of the things you can't do. You suddenly focus on everything that is going badly in your life and can blame the illness for that.
On one hand, this is very easy because then you don't have to do anything.
On the other hand, it's terrible because it prevents you from seeing the opportunities you do still have.
Because even 1 millimeter of progress is progress.
What matters most is your belief that you have the tools within you to achieve your goals. For example, research shows that when you believe you cannot do something this causes you to experience a lower quality of life, whereas when you believe you can get things done on your own this in turn improves the quality of life. This research was conducted on people with asthma, type II diabetes and people with heart disease[1].
This could mean, for example, that if you have asthma, you will actually exercise more to keep your lungs healthy, despite the fear of an asthma attack.
This can mean suddenly starting to eat very healthy to suffer less from type II diabetes.
With heart disease, this can mean that you do dare to leave the house and do things your doctor tells you to do.
Life goes with ups and downs, it is important to see progress after a down as progress, even if you are not at the point where you were before. You haven't fallen behind, just have a new point from which to make progression.
Hypnosis to overcome your fears and make progression
So fear of failure can stop progression, social anxiety can stop progression, the idea that you just can't do something stops progression, and anxiety due to illness stops progression. So a lot is related to anxiety.
Anxiety is often based on beliefs about how things work in life. Fear of failure is often a social fear. Fear of an illness or the effects of a chronic illness can cause you to still find it difficult to do the healthy things necessary to regain progression.
But most importantly, that fear is based on your beliefs. On your thoughts about how the world works and how you can function in it.
Those beliefs were formed at some point, usually in childhood. How much knowledge did you actually have then about how the world worked? Especially compared to now? So the annoying thing is that you then set up these precepts about how everything works and how things should be, but of course, as a child you didn't have all the knowledge.
With hypnosis, you can easily change these types of beliefs. This is done, for example, with regression. With regression, you go back to the moment when a belief that arose that is now holding you back from making progress. You do this only after you have been put into hypnosis by the hypnotist and given the suggestion to do so.
Next, you will review this moment with your current knowledge, allowing you to update your beliefs. These can change completely through this regression and through this you can overcome fears.
Focus on progression through hypnosis
Then you also have a whole other way to use hypnosis to change your focus from your fear to your progression. This is an advanced technique that is not taught until later in the Hypnosis Institute Netherlands training.
With this technique, the hypnotist takes you into your life in the future. What your life will look like then when you have thus achieved your goals, your progression.
Next, you're going to take steps back. You're going to see what you did to get to that point in your life. Each time a step back until the moment when you are in hypnosis and the hypnotist helps you with this technique.
Many people report a year later that they actually succeeded, so it can certainly be a good way to focus more on moving forward and thereby actually achieving it.
Progress in your life means learning from moments of failure, overcoming fears and focusing on possibilities. Hypnosis can help you with this.
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[1] https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0887044031000146815
