Outcome: how important is it?

Results, I actually want to be less concerned with it, but I find that when I post something on social media, I still want to look at the results. Then I see that one video does better than the other. Then I want all the videos to do well, have a certain reach and be shared a certain number of times.

But then again, how important is this really?

For example, do you suffer from wanting to get results, but find that it gets in the way of other parts of your life? Then this blog was written for you.

Meaning Result

Result is an outcome or consequence of a particular action[1]. In my case, the action then was posting a video on social media and the result was how many people had seen the video.

So results are the reaction after an action.

In itself, focusing on results is not a bad thing, but this can make you so uptight about it that you just miss the mark. For example, research shows that students at so-called progressive schools find that those schools focus so much on developing progressive ideas in students, that result, that daily activities and problems of students are not solved[2].

For example, I can be so focused on the videos on social media that I forget to have other activities with my business that may also be beneficial and may be more responsive to my followers' needs.

In addition, you can also focus so much on results because you are somehow in a position of power. If you feel that you are powerful, this can cause you to look at certain things very abstractly - what are the numbers? - and that can even lead to worse results[3].

Balancing peace and wanting results

For example, when I look at my results now and compare them to how I used to view things, what I’ve achieved today would have seemed unbelievable back then. I’d be very happy, but somehow it’s never quite enough.

Meanwhile, you could just as easily be in a state of ultimate happiness. The result isn’t important—you just feel good. You experience a moment of ultimate happiness and pure love, but then suddenly you find yourself thinking about that video that, in your opinion, didn’t get enough views or engagement. That’s your ego disrupting your peace.

Results and perfectionism

Another issue that can arise from your ego is perfectionism, which is often linked to results. Your focus then becomes achieving a perfect result after taking action. Among students who transfer to a different school and then notice their grades dropping, you often see them experiencing anger, shame, and even guilt[4].

It does depend on the type of perfectionism they have. After all, you can be perfectionist for your environment and how you want to come across or you want to be perfect from within yourself and what others think doesn't matter.

Dealing with outcome desires

If you are unbalanced with your results for desires or suffer from unhealthy perfectionism, it is helpful to deal differently with your desires for certain results.

There are multiple ways you can deal with this.

Out of your desires

Speaking out loud what's bothering you can already solve it. Then it's out of your head and everything becomes lighter and more airy. Keeping everything inside, even your dissatisfaction with a result not achieved, often brings tension and that is not pleasant.

Pronounced thus 😊.

Humor

When you do express it, use humor. This is a technique I use with many problems, such as trauma (although wanting results is not really traumatic).

Then people repeat something in that funny humorous tone and suddenly the trauma is no longer trauma, but something traumatic. That you think of: "Wow, why was this such a problem for me?" That they're glad it's over or that it feels lighter.

In a funny tone, you can also express your desire for results, so that you are less bothered by what you want. That it gets a little lighter.

For example, I might say: “So you’re forty and you have kids, and then suddenly you’re thinking: but has my video been viewed enough?” That way, you ’re actually reframing the importance of your result, and this makes it seem much less important. Humor reduces the stress[5] that can come from wanting a specific result.

The use of humor does depend on the problem you want to get a result for. If it's something like the reach of a video on social media it can't hurt, but researchers aren't quite sure how good humor is in a therapeutic setting. So that depends a little bit on how you're put together.

It is clear, however, that using humor is good for lowering your blood pressure, improving your immune system, and promoting the release of beneficial chemicals in your brain[6].

Underlying beliefs about results

But why is the result actually important enough to cause stress ? What does that result really mean? It may be that the result sends you a specific signal.

For example, if my video gets little engagement, I might think that I’m not liked, not good enough, that I’m not getting recognition, and that I’m not appreciated. That’s obviously not true, but if you feel this way, it says something about underlying beliefs that make the result important to you.

With hypnotherapy, you can identify and change these kinds of underlying beliefs, so that the importance of the outcome diminishes and you experience less stress[7]. For example, if you think that the outcome says something about your self-worth or anything else, you can use hypnosis to find out where that belief comes from.

Sometimes just a conversation under hypnosis is enough to make you realize certain things, and sometimes more is needed. With regression , for example, you can find out when a certain belief was formed. Like the belief that you have to get high grades in school so that people will love you. In your adult life, for example, this can become the urge that you have to have a lot of reach on social media so that people love you 😉 . Sometimes it can lead to perfectionism.

You can then revisit that moment with your current knowledge. The hypnotherapist will help you with this. Sometimes this revisiting is enough to change the belief so that you no longer suffer from that stress. Sometimes more is needed. Then, for example, you can have a conversation in your mind with your inner child - yourself in that memory - so that you change the situation in your mind. This can also have a healing effect and cause the belief to change.

What if you get your desired results?

The best part is, when you stop being so uptight about what you want to achieve, you often achieve what you want to achieve. But then what happens? For example, you often see that when people receive appreciation, such as in the form of applause, they don't know how to handle it.

You have to cut the applause short right away. When you receive a compliment, you should quickly downplay it by saying something like, “That was really cheap,” or something along those lines.

You can also think of it as a time when you can take a moment to enjoy your harvest. You've worked hard to get that applause, let that love engulf you for a moment and enjoy it.

Hypnosis also allows you to practice in advance how you react in certain situations. For example, that you say "thank you" to a compliment, that you don't wave away applause and that you just get happy for a moment.

Be sure to listen to this podcast as well:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0PsovJ0xjc1hH8lqjqr0kU?si=eb442332300c430b

To go back to the question of how important results are now, of course that depends on what you want to get the results for. But the point of this blog was not to stop you from getting the result. The intention is that you just don't want to be stressed about it anymore. Hypnosis and techniques used in hypnosis can do a lot to reduce that stress so that you can perform actions in a relaxed way for results.

The best part is that hypnotherapy can even be given via Skype or other online calling tools[8]. It is slightly less effective than in real life, but certainly still effective enough.

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