Life has its ups and downs, but if your life feels like a roller coaster you may still very much want to have a more balanced life. How do you get that to happen? In this blog we take a closer look at it.
Balanced positive emotions
Obviously, you want to get out of an emotional rollercoaster, especially feeling happy and content and not constantly suffering from depressive thoughts. Research shows that when people get help to think more positively, it's good for their well-being and sense of having a good life.
Positive psychology, for example, does not aim to deal with mental problems, but to help people to simply be more focused on the positive aspects of life, regardless of whether they suffer from mental problems or not[1].
But how do you ensure balanced positive emotions?
For example, you can look at certain factors that contribute to positive emotions and reducing imbalances in your emotions. For example, consider:
- Giving meaning to your life
- Virtue/Equity of Your Life
- Resilience
- Wellbeing
For example, by not only pursuing pleasure in your life, but by also looking at how you give meaning to your life, you can generally experience more positive feelings through that satisfaction that you are doing something "good" with your life than if you just live from pleasure to pleasure[2]. So alternate that pleasure with something that gives meaning.
How do you view human nature?
Your mindset also determines a lot about how good and balanced you feel. For example, how you think about human nature can already have a lot of influence on your mindset. Do you believe that people are inherently evil and must try very hard to be good (something many strict Christians believe) or do you think that a human being is a blank page or even inherently good? The answer to that question can already provide a kind of basic emotion.
If you are preoccupied with "I can't do something bad" all the time, your focus is also more likely to be on everything you do wrong, which can create deep negative emotions that can make you unhappy and unbalanced.
By looking more positively at human nature, you can already be more positive in life.
In addition, it's also good to look at what fuels good behavior in you now and why do you sometimes suddenly lapse into bad behavior? Is it because of stress, sadness, anger or other negative emotions? Then you can think about how to improve that situation[3].
Why do you suffer from imbalance?
Imbalance, or the emotional roller coaster, is something that can come from multiple problems in your life. At work, for example, you may suffer from it because you are suddenly faced with a reorganization. As an entrepreneur, it can also affect you a lot, and of course if you are directly or indirectly dealing with illness, it can trigger a lot of emotions.
A commonality that these problems have is that you feel like you have no control, which is then something that creates problems and negative emotions. When reorganization does allow you to control something, it again creates positive emotions[4].
There are also multiple ways to deal with emotions. For example, entrepreneurs can reframe negative emotions or suppress those negative emotions. This does not help make your business a success. What does help entrepreneurs, one of the things, is to not include that negative emotion in your facial expression[5].
If you become ill, or a loved one of yours becomes chronically ill or has a disability, it can have a lot of impact. For example, you have to accept a situation that you don't like, and this can make you very angry at first, before you can adjust to the new situation.
In addition, willpower also plays an important role when your personal health has taken a hit[6].
Sometimes a problem - such as bipolar disorder - can also cause mood swings, which is also a form of an emotional roller coaster. That is usually treated with cognitive behavioral therapy[7].
If you are in the process of rehabbing an addiction, you may also be suffering from emotions that are all over the place. Hypnotherapy is therefore often used to get more balanced emotions.
During a study where people received eight hypnotherapy sessions to get rid of mood swings, it was found that it helped reduce impulsivity, people were better at dealing with emotions, suffered less from addiction and were more engaged in problem solving[8].
In addition, hypnosis in general can also be used for more positive balance in your emotions[9].
Hypnotherapy for greater balance
So there are a number of things to take away if you suffer from emotional imbalance.
- Giving meaning to your life.
- Doing good things in your life.
- Resilient coping.
- Doing things to improve your well-being.
Let's start with the latter, because that's something many people struggle with anyway. For example, what can you do to improve your well-being? Consider healthy eating, adequate exercise and even adequate relaxation. A day at a spa to completely pamper yourself is also a way to feel better. Especially if you combine this with giving meaning to your life and doing good things.
Yet pampering yourself is often something that shows emotional blocks . After all, are you worth it? Healthy eating is often seen as something expensive, and depending on your beliefs about money and yourself, something can then stop you from taking good care of yourself.
A spa day is also expensive indulgence, but doing it occasionally can be very good for your health. With hypnosis, you can figure out why you find it difficult to enjoy yourself in your life and allow positive experiences, for example.
Resilient coping with problems is also something you can strengthen with hypnosis. For example, fear of failure and perfectionism can be very hindering in terms of resilience, and these are just two problems that are also often addressed with hypnosis.
Doing good things in your life can include forgiving people, helping people, maintaining good relationships, keeping the door open and the like.
Helping or forgiving someone is sometimes harder than you think, with hypnosis you can change your way of thinking about doing good things so that it is easier for you.
Doing good things can already give meaning to your life, but that alone can sometimes feel like it's not enough. For example, many people see their work as a kind of mission of their lives.
Thus, I believe it is important for everyone to see hypnosis as something positive and that you can use to solve problems. That is how I give my life meaning and one of the reasons why the Hypnosis Institute Netherlands was founded.
A hypnotherapist can also help you determine the meaning of your life or what you can use to give your life meaning. By working toward some kind of higher purpose, you will find that you can become more emotionally stable and balanced.
So how does hypnosis help?
There are all ways hypnosis can work. For example, for giving meaning to your life you can take a symbol journey, in it you can symbolize certain life events and find a red line in your life that helps you determine what your purpose here is now.
What does something mean to you?
With visualizations, you can see how to do things better. With a family constellation, you can improve the bond in your family by moving people closer or further away from you in your mind, allowing you to interact differently (better) with your family.
For improving your resilience, we can look at your self-confidence and improving your ego. This can also already help you to allow yourself to do fun things, that is, things that make you happy and are good for you.
For example, repeating suggestions that make you feel more confident and self-esteem are ways to improve your resilience and generally feel better.
These may include suggestions such as:
"I can figure anything out."
"I am worthy of indulgence."
"I do good things."
"I am valuable to my fellow man."
These are just examples. Depending on your beliefs and problems with balance, you may receive or think of other suggestions if you are trained in hypnotherapy.
Want to learn more about hypnotherapy and how you can help people with it? Then come to the free online master class.
Or enroll in one of Hypnosis Institute Netherlands' training courses or seminars .
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