Successful people don't always consider themselves successful. I find this a very fascinating fact. What is success anyway? We all have some idea of that, what success is. As far as I am concerned, success is a very big hypnosis
You don't have success, you can't grab it. Success is something you do, what you are doing. Being successful, then, is something you are. You are doing successful.
I think everyone is doing that. That everybody does successful things, but we have certain values attached to it that make others start saying, "Now you're successful and you can say that about yourself."
It feels very crazy when you don't experience that yourself, because you don't feel like you're doing things successfully yet.
Of myself, I know that I do a lot of successful things. For example, I do many things well and also the things that others would say are not good I do very well.
For example, I can very successfully not listen to anyone.
That's not always convenient, especially in private situations. So in not listening, I am very successful. Another would say I'm unsuccessful at listening.
True, I am not doing that successfully yet, but I am successful at not listening.
You could say you do everything successfully, but what is the degree of it? This is different for everyone.
So we are always doing successful.
Life = success
Breathe = success
Drinking without spilling = success (although spilling is also very successful)
Basically, you are continuously doing very successful things.
What is success?
Only we have attached values that allow us to say about ourselves or others whether they are successful. We often say someone else is truly successful, but what that is is different for everyone.
Sometimes this has to do with money. Someone with a million euros in their bank account is often seen as successful because there is a value to money.
It can also be in time. If someone has been in a relationship for 20 years, it is very successful. Or if someone works out three times a week that is successful.
When you compare this to yourself and you don't have a million dollars in your bank account, or you're not in a 20-year relationship, or you work out once a week (or never), you suddenly feel like you're not good.
Then you don't feel successful.
Then you can even start to say that you don't care about success at all. This is then also very interesting. For example, you breathe, very successfully, but just don't do that. Just be unsuccessful at it for five or 10 minutes, then you just die.
You then don't think the values people have attached to success are important. That's different from not finding successful doing things important.
You can also be successful at failing or putting things off.
I find the whole idea of when something is success very interesting.
When will you be successful?
People often say I have a certain level of success, but internally I don't have that idea. I can still very successfully avoid things or find them scary.
I don't consider that to be successful then.
I have a certain idea of what I would like to be like and if I manage to do that 24/7 I will be successful. Is that achievable? I think so.
But for example, I could relax myself better than I do now. I don't find myself very successful at that yet.
I would also like to make even more of an impact, share my ideas and become even bigger with my business. I haven't achieved that yet either, that idea. I'm working on it nicely, but I don't have that level of success yet.
There are all pieces in between.
But it's not that I'm frustrated that I'm not there yet. I see many people frustrated that they don't have the success yet, while doing many successful things.
I used to have that, but I don't anymore. I don't want to get frustrated anymore and I can do that, which is also a measure of doing things successfully.
The outside is never the inside.
What you see on the outside of the idea of success most people do not consider success because they place a different value on it.
It's nice for yourself when you have your own standard of success. Your own value of success.
If you say you don't think it's all that important, you can do very successfully in that. In not finding something important, that's where you are successful. You are successful in experiencing peace or making a connection with other people.
For example, you can say that being successful for you is having a connection with people you love.
When you then put all that under the microscope, you can suddenly say that you are quite successful.
When you then make such a list in what you do well and what you do well not well, you still see that you are very successful. And that feels good.
It's also in your nature to make things better and move forward. This may include taking 15 minutes of rest instead of five.
The moment you start comparing yourself to other people you suddenly feel unsuccessful. But when you compare it to yourself? Then it feels much better.
When you look at it this way, everything other people think falls away, and it's all fine. Then all that matters is improvement, and even standing still is then okay. Experiencing things, enjoying things, you can also become more successful at that. Enjoying and dwelling on small and big things.
Everyone is successful at something and each in their own way. So it's not at all helpful to compare yourself to other people.
Detaching yourself from comparing yourself to others and looking more from wonder and admiration helps better.
If something doesn't work out the first time, that's fine, because almost nothing works out the first time. Then you know where you start and there is room for improvement.
Also listen to this podcast on success.
https://www.buzzsprout.com/195236/1094318-mijn-fascinatie-voor-succes
Success and Science
The preceding text is primarily intended to get you to stop comparing yourself and to get you to think more from your own strengths and beliefs about success.
Scientists have also studied why rich people keep getting richer and why happy people keep getting happier. Your self-image appears to be very important for this. In particular, the feeling that you have a starting level and that you can build on that. So for rich and happy people, it is also true that they do not compare themselves to others, but mainly compare themselves to who they were yesterday or who they were last year, what they did then or what their relationships looked like then and what they are doing now.
The better a person thought about themselves, the better the success became and the more success was achieved in a shorter period of time[1].
Hypnosis can also help you achieve success in your life. For example, hypnosis is widely used to quit smoking[2], to be successful at breathing clean air, and for athletes and entrepreneurs[3] it is often also a means of getting more out of themselves.
Are you currently finding it difficult not to compare yourself to other people? Are you very good at things you don't want to be good at? Then a hypnotherapist can help you shift the focus from comparing yourself to others to yourself.
You can also help yourself with self-hypnosis.
Want to see what hypnosis is and if you can bring people under hypnosis? Then come to a Hypnosis Playshop. These are given in Wormerveer and Zwolle.
Want to learn more about what's possible with hypnosis? Then come to a seminar at the HIN.
Want to get started right away and become a successful hypnotherapist to help other people see success in themselves? Then sign up for one of our trainings. The trainings are held in Wormerveer and Zwolle, but can also be taken online.
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[1] https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2008-09088-010
[2] https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00207147908407538
[3] https://www.atlantis-press.com/proceedings/febm-17/25887044
