Changing behavior is easier said than done. Many behaviors stem from how you see yourself.
When you take ownership then everything changes.
Just own it. Really, take ownership. That's just what it's always about. I see so many people suffering from fears, inferiority, insecurity, suffering from their childhood, suffering from their parents. Those people are always with little voices in their heads telling them what they can and cannot do. If you then consider that they do it all themselves, it is quite extraordinary. Of course they won't say that because yes, "I don't do that anyway, I have that," but with that you are subtly shifting your ownership onto something you don't have.
Let's take insecurity as an example. You are insecure, depressed or certain blockages are in your head, body or organs. "That's just me" or "that's just the way I am" are statements that fit this.
When you say you are insecure, your whole identity is insecurity.
Your hair, your toenails, everything is then insecure because it's you. While this is not true at all.
Because your nails growing, your hair growing, your cells regenerating. That's just fine so it's not true that your whole identity is insecure.
You are or don't have uncertainty.
You do insecure or you do scared.
This is not to say that you do this consciously. Your behavior is not always conscious, so you have to make yourself aware of your behavior.
You might say, yes, sure you can do something different. But if you don't know how, that's very easy to say. If I say to you: here you have a quadratic equation, solve it, and you think 'huh? First, I've never heard of that and second, what are we talking about?' Then you can't. I can then say 'You're stupid,' but that makes no sense at all, because you haven't learned how to do that. You can compare uncertainty to a quadratic equation, which you may now have no idea how to do. So how to do it? That's the second question.
First claim yourself. That you do from self insecurity, fear or unhealthiness.
Most importantly.
People are often looking for a solution. They are trying to find a solution.
Insecurity, anxiety, fatigue, you do it all yourself. You do insecurity and you can solve it by doing something else, like by being sure. Or maybe something else.
But the first step to changing behavior is to own it, take ownership and claim it.
This is very difficult. Uncertainty you can still kind of understand, that you say "Yes, I do scared and I do like this.
You can extend this further to all diseases and defects. That, of course, is already more difficult. Substances that you don't create or do create, that you claim the same. I do. This is pretty intense.
When you say, "I'm missing a substance," you are telling yourself that you are.
Then I say, no, you don't make that substance. You do. Of course, that is very different from saying that you are missing something, because you are not missing anything at all. You just don't make certain things and you do make certain things, and of course you may need outside help with that. Imagine, I don't make insulin and I say I do it myself. Then I claim it. Then I still need help, because I have to inject extra insulin. Yes, okay, well, so then you do something else and then you supplement.
You do the injecting of insulin.
There are also people who lack substances in their heads and then say they take antidepressants for it. You can doubt that. Do you have depression or are you acting depressed?
Maybe you have experienced something and feel and behave this way because of it. Maybe you think things that are not helpful and feel and act depressed as a result.
Maybe you have certain deficiencies in your food, maybe you need to take vitamins?
I don't know either huh, don't get me wrong. Of course, it could also be that an antidepressant works for you. However, I think there are lots of other things more useful to try before taking such a pill.
Imagine you are depressed, tired or dejected and you start working out hard. Or you start eating lots of vegetables and you avoid sugar as much as possible.
You start paying attention to your diet and exercise patterns, and then after three months you see what's left of the depressive behavior. Maybe it's gone, it just might be.
But this takes a lot more effort than just taking a pill.
Once someone came to me and told me there was a pill for diabetes. From that pill you would lose weight and then you would no longer have diabetes.
So you have a certain lifestyle. You've taught yourself not to exercise and to eat a lot. And then you're going to give him a pill so he'll lose weight. Surely you can do that better differently?
Perhaps it helps, that for a while it is a means to ensure that you change your lifestyle. But you might also want to start changing your lifestyle.
Own what you do. Stop blaming your parents, brothers or sisters for why you are the way you are. You do it yourself! It's all external things, so don't blame the government or the economy either.
Also, don't blame internal things, such as your genes, your organs, your heart, your thoughts, your substances and other things.
When you claim it and say you do it, miraculous things happen. So just own it.
Every time you experience something and label it as a problem simply say, "I'm doing this." When you say that, then you can go do something else.
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Why do you do what you do?
Depression and other disorders often have benefits as well. Are you an introvert? Then depression can be used as an excuse not to meet with anyone.
It is also important to figure out if you are doing something you are doing so that you have a good and acceptable excuse for not doing something. To reject people, for example, without hurting their feelings.
- Or so you can get away with totally unacceptable behavior.
- Or so you can escape certain obligations.
- Or so you can get Ritalin (when faking ADHD or ADD).
- Or so you can get money from your disability insurance[1].
You may even be doing this unconsciously. In the case that you are doing it for medication or money, of course not, but if you find it difficult to stand up for yourself or say "no," a certain condition may be an excuse that people don't really have anything to say to.
Perhaps you then have the belief that simply saying "no" is not done.
That's not at all convenient.
With hypnosis, you can use a socratic conversation to repeat the why question (or questions similar to it) several times to get to the core of your beliefs. Then you immediately know what you need to change.
Changing beliefs to do healthy
In this case, it's important to figure out your beliefs. Why do you find it difficult to eat healthy and exercise? Is eating healthy too expensive? Does it have to do with self-esteem? Or is eating healthy not tasty enough? Does it have to do with how fun everything should be for you?
For example, when did insecurity, overeating or depression start?
You can figure this out with regression. With regression, you go back to the first moment when you became troubled by your problem. The first moment when the belief arose that caused you to do what you are doing now.
Then you start to revisit and change this moment in your mind, changing the belief that causes you to not feel good or experience a problem. And that changes or solves the problem.
Research shows that depression can be treated very well with hypnotherapy. For example, with regression or gestalt therapy[2].
Gestalt therapy involves making you aware of how your body feels and how to change it.
So even if you're not subconsciously faking something, hypnosis can help you. So even if something is really going on. This helps you feel and behave differently almost immediately.
Affirmations for doing things differently
In addition, you can change behavior or feelings of an illness by repeating affirmations. Which affirmations work best for you depends on the behavior or problem you want to change. A hypnotherapist can help you find the best affirmations for you.
These can include affirmations such as:
"I am strong."
"I can do anything."
"I do what I want."
"I can do what I imagine."
These are just examples, depending on your beliefs and goals you may get other suggestions from a hypnotherapist.
You can then start your day by repeating these affirmations in front of the mirror or while still relaxed in bed with self-hypnosis.
With hypnosis, it is possible to change all kinds of behaviors and problems in these above ways, and others. These can include chronic headaches, stomachaches, anxiety, depression, sadness, anger, family stress, sleep disorders and bladder infections[3].
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[1] https://www.verywellmind.com/faking-depression-1066887
[2] https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1130527416300561
