Being Impatient: Ways to develop patience

You want something and ideally you want it right away. Being impatient is not always something that works in your favor. In this blog, we're going to talk about the pros and cons of being impatient and what you can do if you find that your impatience is having a negative impact on your life.

Impatience

Being impatient means you can’t wait for certain results. You’re energetic, but with a negative undertone. You could almost say that someone is agitated. This has both advantages and disadvantages.

How much patience a person has varies from person to person. It greatly influences the decisions people make. This is because it’s all about your expectations regarding what you gain and lose in the long and short term. If you’re impatient, you often prioritize short-term gains more than you would if you were very patient.

It even influences when you have children and when you have your second child (if you want to have one). What’s funny is that if you’re very impatient or, conversely, very patient, you’re less likely to have children than if you have a normal amount of patience[1].

The pros and cons of impatience

For example, people with a type A personality like quick results and are competitive. For researchers in science, this impatience often causes them to start and complete more studies and to have good quality. In addition, impatience also helps you in feeling capable[2], because you do not wait for someone else, but take the initiative yourself to achieve certain goals.

The disadvantages of impatience are often seen in traffic, such as honking when someone takes too long to accelerate at a green traffic light. Tailgating when someone doesn't drive on and other road rage problems. This can eventually cause accidents, so impatience in the car can even be dangerous. At the same time, it is quite explainable if you have to be somewhere on time and you experience that time pressure[3].

In addition, rigid impatience—unhealthy impatience—can be a cause of ADHD and depression, and it makes you more susceptible to addictions[4]. This is because you simply can’t wait for a reward. You need to experience that good feeling of winning right away, and if that doesn’t happen, you get in a bad mood.

Drugs can make people feel good initially, so that's one way to get rid of feelings of impatience.

Sometimes success takes time, but if you suffer from intense impatience, this can lead to feelings of depression.

Being impatient is also a symptom of ADHD.

In addition to problems with drinking and drugs, research on adolescents shows that impatient adolescents are more likely to have higher weight, fail to save well and behave worse in class[5].

However, this impatience in young people does not necessarily have to do with an inability to wait for rewards. A focus on the future also accounts for much of the impatience seen in young people[6]. They are eager to build their lives and simply want to achieve certain life goals as quickly as possible.

Impatience at work

A study of insurance companies found that unhealthy impatience is not good for the number of insurance policies sold and that people are more likely to suffer from depressive symptoms when they are impatient.

In the process, impatient people are also more likely to be dissatisfied with their work[7].

Impatience in relationships

If you’re impatient, that’s actually not very helpful for maintaining a healthy relationship. Research shows that impatient people are more likely to start a new relationship soon after the previous one has ended.

In addition, the likelihood of cheating is higher, and even the likelihood of engaging in unsafe sex is greater among people who are unhealthily impatient[8].

It may therefore be wise, if you quickly enter into new relationships after a previous one has ended, to assess whether you are suffering from a love addiction.

Impatient with your children

What is interesting is that impatient children often have impatient mothers as well. In a study where mothers were either allowed to have a certain amount of money in six months, or in 12 months, it was found that children of the mothers who chose the six months were more likely to be impatient than children of mothers who could wait 12 months for money[9].

In addition, there is even a correlation between impatient parents and children who are overweight[10].

It’s well known that children imitate others, so this impatient behavior can also be imitated.

By working with your impatience as a parent, you can remove beliefs that prevent you from being patient. Who knows what that will do for your child.

Where does being impatient come from?

Research shows that being impatient is often something you develop as a child and can cause problems with friends as early as young adulthood[11]. That development of impatience often comes from problems you may have when you are a child.

So if someone is experiencing so much impatience that it is causing problems, it is wise to see if there is a cause in that person's childhood. With hypnosis, you can then use the regression technique to see when a belief arose that is now causing impatience.

So you then go back into childhood and give or receive a suggestion to go back to the first moment when the impatient feeling was there. Then you can look at what happened then to explain this feeling, and in your mind you can change the moment as well.

Again, there are multiple techniques for that. Sometimes just empathizing with other people who were there at the time is enough to change a belief that is causing unhealthy impatience. Then the impatient feelings are no longer triggered[12].

Reducing impatience with hypnosis

So getting to the root cause and removing limiting beliefs is already a good way hypnosis can help you become more patient.

As mentioned, impatience at work can lead to dissatisfaction with your job. It can even lead to depression. It can also lead to burnout. These types of problems can be treated very effectively with hypnosis.

For example, research shows that hypnotherapy combined with cognitive behavioral therapy helps people to be more patient, among other things. In addition, it also helps reduce anger, experiencing time pressure, and dissatisfaction with work. On the contrary, it improves emotional stability and enjoyment of work[13].

How hypnosis does this is different for everyone. Because people all have unique lives, techniques used by hypnotherapists can vary from client to client.

Whereas for one person, regression with empathy for other people is effective in transforming impatience into patience, another person may actually need it, for example, to use their imagination to imagine how the situation could have been. Yet another person may need a conversation with the inner child.

During a conversation with the inner child, it is then made clear to the unconscious inner child that all is already well. That life is already stable and that he no longer needs to worry about reaching certain goals quickly.

Applying Gratitude

In addition, impatience often focuses on things you don’t yet have. Practicing gratitude for what you do have—or have achieved—can help you shift your focus from what isn’t there to what is.

That changed focus also brings much peace, allowing you to experience the feeling of reward just by listing things you are grateful for.

Meanwhile, you can already get a gratitude journal in an awful lot of stores. Just filling it out can cause a shift in your mindset and feelings.

What to expect in hypnotherapy

The great thing about hypnotherapy is that people can be helped incredibly quickly. Often three sessions are enough to help people get rid of a problem.

In the first session, you'll have an exploratory talk that examines what a person's problem actually is and where it comes from. Then it is explained what hypnotherapy is and upon consent, the person with the problem is put into hypnosis and a start can be made to solve the problem.

The second session really pulls out all the techniques to solve the problem. This session often lasts the longest.

The third session is used to verify that the problem has actually been solved in the person's daily life. Some further techniques may be applied to make adjustments if necessary.

Helping people and yourself with impatience

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