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Yes, it's off, the pass. Or is there still a catch....

Yay, the pass is off! Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the “Kom uit Hypnose” podcast. Yes, the QR pass is gone—well, almost, anyway. February 25—maybe by the time you’re listening to this, it’s already gone. But it’s gone. And I can hear you thinking, “Well, it’ll just come back.” You know, it’s in the toolbox, and if necessary, it’ll just pop back out. Yeah, right—because something that’s supposed to be temporary usually never goes away. That’s happened before. Back in 2006–2007, there was a “temporary” anti-terrorism law—well, that’s been extended until 2027, so it’s still in effect. The QR code is tied to that, too, so yeah, that’s one example, and of course there are plenty more like it.

And we still have to get the Kok quarter back too, and the price of gasoline is now over 2 euros, a gallon. So yes, the penny doesn't matter anymore, but as you can see: it has been like that for years, in fact my whole life. So you already know: this will not be temporary. But you have to celebrate where you can ladies and gentleman and well, just make do with what you have. And that's what I want to talk to you about because look what you're doing, that's what you see in the world. When my wife was pregnant with twins, I saw twins everywhere everywhere. Cars, twin cars, twin seats yes I was all over that and I saw twins everywhere really well gigantic. You would think it's a unique thing, until you get into it yourself and then you see them everywhere.

Frequency illusion

Well, that’s the frequency illusion, the Bader-Meinhof phenomenon—you see what you consider important. You also see what you believe; what you believe is what you see. If you believe that no one can be trusted, then you’ll only see people who can’t be trusted, for example . But if you find something very important—and you’re focused on twins, for instance—then you’ll see twins everywhere. If you’re focused on shoes, you see shoes everywhere. The other day, I was at the dentist, and the first thing he said was, “Hey, new shoes?” He was thinking about that because his daughter was into shoes and wanted some really expensive ones. So his filter is tuned to shoes, and the first thing he sees—among everything else you might see—is my shoes. And then he brings up shoes because that’s “top of mind” for him. So that’s what he sees reflected in the world.

Well, you probably recognize that too. And if you start paying attention to yellow cars now, suddenly you see yellow cars everywhere—where weren’t they before? Yes, of course they were. It’s just that they stand out more. And they appear more often in your world. And suddenly it seems as if everyone is driving a yellow car. Hey, suddenly it seems like everyone is pregnant, for example, if your wife is pregnant or you’re a woman—and you’re listening—and you’re pregnant yourself. You suddenly see pregnant women everywhere. Back when we still had babies—and I say “babies” because at one point we had three children under the age of two, lots of little kids—you suddenly start seeing lots of little kids. Of course, at some point you also go to a playroom, see children there again, and it stands out more. And now, I hardly see any small children at all anymore; I only see teenagers. Because my boys are now in the “teenager category.” And I hardly see any little kids anymore either, because, well, my subconscious filter is tuned to teenagers, and I do see a lot of them. I see a lot of teenagers.

And my mother, for example, she sees a lot of elderly people. And that's her world, the elderly have it so bad. And I think, 'Yes, the young people have it so bad.' Only you could say 'Both have it bad or both are doing fine'. But anyway, it's your focus point.

And actually, you could see it the same way social media works, or YouTube. Once you click on a video you like, all of a sudden you get suggested videos, I think you know. And before you know it, you only see suggested videos of what you think is cool. Or maybe not even cool, but what you want more info on. So imagine I go to watch a movie about "the earth is flat," so I see a YouTube movie with an explanation of "Yes the earth is not round, it is flat. Then next I do see the videos, more of them. And before you know it, you're in a kind of algorithm, algorithmic trap where I only see things like that. Well that's not bad, until you start believing that that's really all it is.

But then you're back in the same of "There are only yellow cars" or "Everyone has only blue shoes" or "All women are pregnant. Well I can tell you, you can create really nasty situations with that. Because not all women are pregnant, some look pregnant and then if you say they are pregnant, they get angry. And I've experienced that myself in real life. But now we actually have software that actually does the same thing as life itself.

What do you care about?

If you look at your Social media timeline, he example Facebook or Instagram or whatever. You see what you care about. And what you care about that scans that program. So if you linger a little longer on an image, linger a little longer on a post, that program knows, "Okay, here's what he or she wants to see more of," and it's going to see that. And at some point you think that's the truth, but it's your truth, your filter.

I mean so much is published on the Internet, it takes a lifetime to consume all that is published in one day. Because you're not going to manage that, so that program filters that for you. So imagine: you believe in certain conspiracies, you're just going to see that on your timeline. And then at some point you think, 'But wait a minute, why don't you see that on your timeline?' 'Don't you know that?' You also really think that all of Facebook then sees the same thing, but it doesn't. You only see what you want to see and what you think is important.

But in real life it's the same, you only see what you care about and what you believe. Anything you don't believe, you don't see. And that just doesn't come through either. Of the 11.2 million bits of information that you receive per second - according to Ap Dijksterhuis in his book 'The Clever Unconscious' - of which 5 bit is 1 letter, you process 2 thick books of information per second. You consciously process 60 bits of that, so 12 letters from 2 thick books, so what happens: you leave out most of it. The rest you distort, to what you think is important and what you believe and generalize. 'Oh, they're all like that'. That is most energy efficient for your brain.

Attention QR Pass

So long story short, that QR card, if you make it important, you'll see it everywhere. And then I say, "Yeah but it's everywhere too, isn't it? No, it's not everywhere. It's like blue cars, there are a lot of blue cars. There are a lot of gray cars, hey maybe the majority of all cars is a certain color maybe black. I don't know that right now, but imagine the majority are black cars. Are there already other colors of cars? Yes but much less, for example red cars are less for example or white for example less. But they are there. Only if you only pay attention to black cars then you only see black cars. Even if you say, "Yes but I don't want to see black cars!" even then you make it important. Maybe even more important.

Because what you don’t want, you make 2.5 times more important than what you do want. So does loss aversion—that’s where it comes from: we go to 2.5 times more effort to avoid pain, to prevent loss. We’d rather not lose anything, and we put 2.5 times more effort into that than into gaining something. So imagine: “I want that QR pass”—then I see that QR pass, and sure enough, I want it. But imagine you don’t want that QR pass—then you’ll see it 2.5 times more often in your world even though you don’t want it! But that’s how your brain works: it doesn’t want this, so it’s going to show you all kinds of things you don’t want.

So that’s so fascinating—so what do you actually end up with: even more frustration, even more anger. Because you don’t want to see that at all, and what happens is: you see it 2.5 times as much as anyone else. Until you think, “Yeah, it’s just not in my world.” At least it’s there, but I don’t make it a big deal. And just like twins—I don’t think they’re important anymore—does that mean there are suddenly no more twins in the world? Of course there are, but I don’t see them. I don’t see them. Pregnant women—yeah, they’re not important to me anymore. At first, I was really preoccupied with that when my wife was pregnant, but that was a long time ago. I was really preoccupied with it; I saw them everywhere, with all the consequences that entailed.

But now they are not there? Yes, of course they are but I don't see them. But when I engage in it, I see them. If I don't want them around me then I see them 2.5 times more. Think about that. So if it's not important to you, not important at all, and you don't pay attention to it anymore. You think, "Whatever, I don't care anymore. Is it just not there in your world, in your world hey. Because it is there in the world, just like pregnant women, just like yellow fiat pandas just like blue cars, red shoes. Everything is in the world, everything. But what you want to see is only because you make that important and because you believe that. And if you don't want it, you make it 2.5 times more important. So yes, again, the summary: if you don't want to see something in your life, don't make it so important. Later.

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