Shaolin Tactics for complainers and naggers

The Tactics of Deception ...

This is how it is described by the Shaolin masters. When you lull opponents to sleep, so to speak, or when it seems like you can't do anything.

For example, Tiger style or Drunken style. As if you are drunk you walk up to the opponent, you drop down and then when he is nearby you eliminate him by a blow or kick to the knee and in the groin area.

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s a very good tactic to make your opponent kind of overconfident and give him the idea that he's winning.

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So did the beggars in China. They found out that people gave more if you let a little dog sit with them. Preferably an emaciated doggie. Brings in a lot. You think you are helping, but the animal just sits there longer on that cold concrete floor.

Exactly the opposite effect. It’s better not to give anything, but then again… that guilty feeling…

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Some people also want to make you feel bad or guilt to weaken you. Maybe subconsciously. Sometimes consciously to make you feel weak so that you are more likely to change your mind to do what they want. You could think of it as a kind of fight in which one wants something from the other. A kind of battle. And those people, of course, will never say it that way. 'No, no it's not a fight.' But, for example, whole stories of how bad they have it. 'And I lost my father and I have it bad and I was raped as a child.' I get a lot of those stories in my mailbox. And it's bad, but every time they start with that I already know exactly the end. It's crying, crying, crying. Then after a long time you already know that they don't have money and you can't help me for free?

They just want to take advantage of my pity. So they don’t bring anything to the table. They don’t have anything either. They only have their pitiful story. To weaken me so that I give in out of pity. Sympathy. But just like with that beggar and his pitiful dog, it only makes things worse. Because then I become part of their story. Imagine if I were to go along with it—which I used to do—then of course it wouldn’t work, because, well, that doesn’t fit the story. Imagine if it actually worked—then they wouldn’t have that story. So then they could use it like this: “I went to him too, and it didn’t help either.” And “Even the best—even Edwin—couldn’t do it!” So that someone else’s ego might be appealed to . “Oh, if Edwin can’t do it, then I can. Let’s see if I’m better than Edwin.”

No, I don't buy into those age-old samurai tactics anymore. I have already stepped out of that hypnosis . When you go into that fight, you have only losers. Nobody wins. Not entering the fight is best. Then you have a chance of two winners.

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Even better is to consciously do nothing. Use withdrawal as a Samurai tactic.

In both kung fu, and aikido, it's using the opponent's strength by moving with them. Something comes, but we don't respond with an attack. We react by absorbing, moving with or even retreating. For example, in Samurai they say,"Running away is not the same as losing. Because you can always come back to win, for example. It's only a half-loss you might say.

That's fine!

And with these people, consciously doing nothing is also a choice! Consciously doing something is a choice, of course. Because they ask questions and then you tend to answer. But you can also consciously do nothing. Nothing at all. And then you will see what is behind it. Then suddenly they call you a loser, and you're only doing it for the money, and you're not worth it and you don't want to help people at all and this and that... Then suddenly it becomes such a story. The struggle changes. First pity against pity, if that fails then they play on guilt and if that fails then they get angry and go on the attack again. Then it stops and they move on to the next one.

Consciously doing nothing

I find that interesting. Looking at it that way. I read that in the book *The Way of the Samurai*. I thought: Yes, that’s right. I now see it as a battle in which the opponent—in this case, the pitiful story, but also the social media attack , the negative reaction, and so on—how does the samurai deal with that? By consciously doing nothing about it. He does nothing. It has nothing to do with me, and I won’t let it weaken me. I just withdraw.

On social media, for example, you have the delete button and the block button. You could say that’s a kind of attack, too—a virtual attack! But it’s also a way to get that out of your system right away . If you were consciously doing nothing, you’d just leave it there. But I consciously choose to simply delete everything right away.

Because someone goes into battle with me and I can't win it anyway. So the moment I do enter into it, I am already a loser. That's not smart, and that's why it's better to remove the fight by just deleting it or blocking it. That's much easier.

The other day on Twitter, a riot arose over an article of mine ... well, deliberately doing nothing. Stand in the eye of the storm, back off, delete article and let it go. Storm in a glass of water. And on it goes again.

A battle avoided is a battle won.

Complainers and naggers who want to weaken you. Be a Shaolin, retreat, stay in your power and consciously do nothing about it. That will make you stronger. Good luck!

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