What are negative people? Researchers indicate that negative people always find something to criticize. They complain, are cynical, are tyrannical, always worry or always feel like the victim. Dealing with negative people can therefore take a lot of energy and be stressful[1].
But why is this the case anyway?
Ultimately, we ourselves put the label on someone. While someone else may find that person a positive person again.
We determine that label by comparing that person to what we see as positive. So we only see the negative in the other person because of what we ourselves find negative. We see in the other person what we ourselves are.
When we see negative people, we are negative. After all, how else can you recognize anything?
If I believe that people cannot be trusted , then I only see people who cannot be trusted.
Although they can be trusted, I don't give them the benefit of the doubt, because I don't doubt that people can't be trusted. That may be because of two or three experiences in my past and suddenly I see those people.
So I see people only as I am. I can't recognize what I don't know. If I don't know people to trust, I don't recognize that either. I don't trust myself, I don't trust people, so I also don't see that people can be trusted. Of course, there are plenty of those people.
You actually have to look very hard to find people who cannot be trusted.
Just like that you should look carefully for negative people. There are actually many more people who are positive than negative people. But if you don't see them, you're saying that's not the case in your world.
So then it's you. Not consciously, but it's what you see and recognize. Everything you recognize in the other person, that plays out in yourself.
If you see hate, fear or anger, it's just in you.
Imagine that all you could see is happiness. This is because you have no other frame of reference.
You can hardly imagine this because as humans we have emotions. The four basic emotions are:
- Happy
- Angry
- Grief
- Bang
In that, you have all kinds of nuances and so we see that in the world.
But imagine you happened to be born and can only be happy. You have a defect in your brain and can only be happy.
That's kind of annoying at a funeral when everyone is sad and you're walking around nice and happy. That's crazy. It won't be understood everywhere, but that doesn't matter, because you are happy and see only happiness.
You cannot see other than what you are.
Imagine you are only sad and you don't experience the rest, you only see sadness.
Imagine you would have no emotions, then everything is just neutral. Then there is no feeling about anything and then you don't care. The annoying thing then is that you can't choose. Then there is often confusion, because an emotion causes you to choose.
If you have to choose between a cauliflower and a strawberry, it's hard for people who have suffered brain damage from an accident and therefore spend two hours at a greengrocer thinking about what to choose.
To you, the emotion is very simple and so is the choice, but not to these people.
Why the cauliflower? Yes healthier and tastier, that's where the emotion is. But if it's neutral, then it's trickier.
So you see what you are. Your view of the world determines what you see. This is even called negative self-hypnosis, and those people you think are negative probably suffer a lot more[2].
How to deal with negative people
Because you see what you are you can also do a lot yourself to make your dealings with negative people easier. You then don't even have to change those people, this is also very difficult.
It is important for your well-being, though, to find a way to cope well with negative social interactions later in life as well[3].
What can you do if you want to change the world and be less bothered by negative people? You can then put everything in the light. You might ask, can you make those negative people positive by putting them in the light? Maybe.
But if you want to direct, it will be an outcome that is not necessarily win-win. Maybe a win for you, but not a win for anyone else.
After all, you don't know what the best outcome is. Your ego, or your I-self, doesn't know. But your divine self does know, and that is light and love.
If you give it light, an outcome will come.
Changing negative people is hard
If you don't want those negative people in your life and you put them in the light, will they become more positive? They may actually become more intense. The more light, the more intense it becomes.
I compare it to a wildcat in a warehouse. That warehouse is dark and he has been living in the dark for a long time. He's gotten used to that. Suddenly you come in and shine a construction light on that cat. Then that cat gets all crazy and runs away. Then when that light chases him, he gets all crazy. Maybe that cat attacks you because it has become light. You can also experience that with those negative people.
When those people are like trapped by darkness, fear and anger we call it darkness. And you give them light, then those people may become brighter and maybe they're going to hate you. They're going to resist.
You don't have to physically resist. You just need to put things in the light and the best outcome will come.
If you send light to the situation, the light controls it. That's always better. Because every time we start manipulating people and trying to bend something to our will, it goes wrong.
Just look at the history. When we as humanity try something it goes wrong.
Right now I'm reading the book Mosquito. It's about the mosquito. When we started slave trading, which was terrible, it was kind of normal at the time. We were going to manipulate. We took people away from Africa and took them to America. Those tribes from Africa were resistant to the malaria mosquito. That mosquito came with us, while it was nowhere else in the world at that time. We took the mosquito with us. Then at that time more people died of malaria, of that mosquito, than the entire slave trade combined, tens of millions. Why?
When we as humans want to manipulate something it is simply punished. In this case by the mosquito then.
Always when we try something there comes a backlash.
With your persona, how do you know what the right way is? We don't have that overview, but the light that we are knows better than we do.
When we send this to those people, people recognize the light and then that dark side starts to struggle. But at some point it becomes so light that it stands out.
You also see it now that many things are separate after all.
But then what do people do? Then they get other information, which is also separate, to distract them again. Then they take you to what is not right, when something is right. In any case, confusion is created.
Change your own feelings first
If you don't like people, remember that they are also light and love. If everything is one. If you are holistic, that person is also you and you are not going to hate yourself either.
Therefore, start with yourself. Who am I? Light and love. And then connect with that and then look at that person you don't like, or who you think is negative, with light and then you won't see that anymore.
Then things become different. Then that other person may also start to resist harder, not his real being, but the puppet, his ego, which becomes fiercer. That one will also start shouting things that you think are then completely wrong.
But they can't do anything but what they do. A hater we call a hater, because that's all he can do. A liar keeps lying, but look past that and see the light.
First in yourself, because you alone can see who you are. When you see hate, fear and anger, you think, "Shit, that's me now?" Is that what you want? No, of course you don't.
So first feel light and love and then watch. Then suddenly the world is a cool place and it doesn't matter what happens, because it is an expression of love anyway.
Practicing that every time, that's the battle you get to fight. Send the light as much as you can.
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Protecting yourself from negative people
Feeling light and love and sending it out to people can help them see everything differently, and that is already a form of protection from negative people.
Notice that those negative people still resist it and become even more negative, then sometimes it's just necessary to stop dealing with them (if possible). For example, narcissists need you to listen to them in order to influence you. If you are not there, there is no influence.
Another way to protect yourself is to not take what they do then personally. It is just a way in which their negativity is manifested, however, it does not ultimately say much about you, but mostly about them.
Just think what a person must have gone through to become so negative. Then you almost feel sorry for them. Then it also becomes a lot easier to send light and love.
Changing your view of the world can be done happily with hypnosis. If self-hypnosis can already make you negative, hypnosis can also be used to make it positive again.
With hypnosis, you can explore and change beliefs that make it difficult for you to deal with negative people and protect yourself. Those changes then cause you to find it easier to set boundaries, give light when necessary and choose for yourself when you've otherwise tried everything else.
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