Yesterday I had a little breakthrough for myself and it was about "being entitled to something. This is how I teach classes and the theme of the class was "You have a right to miracles. Somehow I didn't feel relaxed, I was working on that right to miracles and then I got the weak laugh
Then someone said, "You're not entitled to anything at all."
I had to laugh in awe at my thoughts, "I'm entitled to this and I'm entitled to that." I laughed so much at myself, which was kind of new to me. This mainly involved the phrase that I would be entitled to something.
You can look at this in two ways, that you are entitled to miracles and enlightenment and the like.
But your ego, your self, is also addressed. Which then thinks, "Yes, I have rights too!" They can't just cut me off. I have a right to benefits, allowances, good care and food. All those kinds of things.
I had to think about that, too. Like: I also have a right to a happy life, success or more money. Just fill in the blank and then I burst out laughing like this. "Dude, you're not entitled to anything. What makes you think you have rights? Because you were born you think you have rights?"
Of course you're entitled. Everyone is entitled to the feeling of being, joy and love. This is also your birthright.
The rest? Who says so? Then you see a part in you being tapped into that thinks you have all those rights.
But rights, you got that here, in other countries you don't have those rights at all.
What makes you think that if you were born here, that we should take care of you?
You are indeed taken care of on some level here.
You could say you are taking care of yourself. That goes a long way. God takes care of you, your higher self takes care of you. Love takes care of you, you are taken care of anyway.
But that's not to say this trickles down, that you think, "If I'm going to be taken care of anyway, I don't have to do anything. Can I just watch Netflix, eat chips and then if I get a heart attack, I'll be taken care of." In the Netherlands, this is also true, which is really genius. You don't even have to do anything to your body, but "we" will help you. We give you tips and you can just ignore them, because you can just keep your lifestyle. You're entitled to that.
But dear ladies and gentlemen, you're not entitled to that. You are just lucky to get it and to live in a country where you get it.
Somewhere you are not entitled to anything.
You were just born and you are lucky to have been born here.
Because those rights, they can also be taken away.
Then people get angry.
Like when you bought a house, suddenly you have to pay something because the lot is still on municipal land.
I was totally cramped on those "rights." So I thought, "You just get lucky and embrace that."
That was very liberating for me, because the cramping about those rights fell away. That was so relaxing, because then I don't have to hold on to those rights either.
No need to think those are "mine" then.
So you are not entitled to anything except who you think you are: peace, joy and love.
From that state, miraculous things literally happen.
If you are there and experience that, then that other thing you think you are entitled to (being helped quickly, no traffic jams, benefits and the like) is irrelevant.
Then a path unfolds that is many times more wondrous and rewarding than the path of contraction. In that cramped path, you claim rights that may not be yours at all.
If you occasionally cramp up, think to yourself - with your eyes closed - who thinks you are entitled. Observe that, be an observer of that particle in you that thinks it is entitled. See how that one in you is ticking. Observe that one and then see if you laugh as much as I do.
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How does feeling "entitled" affect you?
So you can get into a kind of cramping when you think you are entitled to something. This feeling was also once manipulated in people by scientists and what turned out: people who thought they were entitled to something became more creative as a result[1]. People could suddenly use household items in more ways and make more creative drawings than people in whom this feeling was not triggered.
What is also interesting is that people in leadership positions are also more likely to serve themselves more rewarding. Particularly when their leadership is recognized, but so also a bit when someone just considers themselves a leader regardless of what everyone else thinks. Fortunately, leaders also take on more tasks than people who do not feel like leaders[2].
So it's not necessarily a bad thing, but if you find that it's not helping you move forward, it's still helpful to let go of the feeling. In fact, research also shows that sometimes the feeling of - being entitled to - can actually turn out to be wrong.
If you have ever been expelled from a group and feel you are entitled to more, for example, this feeling causes you to behave more dishonestly. You are then more likely to have dishonest intentions and cheat more to get money at a task, for example[3].
This is also why it is so important to feel like you belong somewhere, it keeps you more honest anyway.
Feeling entitled to let go
For example, if you are irritated throughout the day because things are not going the way you want, because you are not getting what you want, it may be more comfortable for you to let go of this feeling.
This is easier said than done, and of course it is nice when this bad feeling is exchanged for a good feeling. Not that it is just gone on its own and then you don't know what to do with your thoughts.
Enjoy the success of others
Another way to - have the right to - let go more is to enjoy more of the success other people are having[4]. After all, it's not that if the other person has success that means you can't have it. Rather, it is an example of what can be achieved if you take steps to do so.
After all, every journey is different and some achieve goals in different ways and at different times than others.
Help to let go of "entitlement"
Hypnotherapy can play a role in this. For example, you can explore why you think a certain thing is coming to you. This lies in the beliefs you have about the world and how you function in it.
When you get help from a hypnotherapist, he or she will ask all sorts of things in an exploration session to get a picture of your beliefs and what you are entitled to. This gives the therapist inputs into how best to help you get rid of these, especially if it makes you feel worse.
There are several techniques that can be used, but regression is most likely to be used for this problem.
With regression, you go back in your mind to the moment where you first felt you were "entitled to something." To whatever this was. This is often the moment when the belief was created that gave you this feeling.
Then, you start to look at that moment from a different angle. This can cause you to interpret that moment very differently, making the feeling of "entitlement" go away.
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Sources:
[1] https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022103114001607
[2] https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/ejsp.260
[3] https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0146167213493187
[4] https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-practice/201303/9-types-entitlement-tendencies-and-how-overcome-them
