Resolve an unconscious conflict in the next life?
So how do you do it?
19 years ago at 7 a.m. on March 15, I was doing something very different. My wife who was having contractions, I didn't believe it at first. I thought "Yeah, let it go. Because I was just laying there, I had spent the night, with a friend of mine. And yes my son, he wasn't due yet, so I thought, 'That will take a while'. But I couldn't go to sleep anyway, because at half past 1:30 on March 15, he was born. My oldest son.
Anyway, that's cool, so I hung up the streamers this morning with 19 balloons, will like that one. Anyway, he's 19, he doesn't necessarily see a garland of balloons, but well that's why I do it. But that aside, at least 19 years ago, I was very different: I was still half drunk at that moment when the contractions came, in the hospital I fell asleep, because I had not slept enough. I was really completely broke when he came into the world. And yes, I really thought at that time - I was 27 - of 'Well, when you have a child then everything becomes different.' Then everything is different. It's automatic, then you stop all the crazy stuff. Then you stop going through and weekends away. And with weekends away I don't mean weekends away with your wife, no, just partying until you drop. But that didn't happen. Nothing really changed, except that I had less sleep. I kept working, of course, but I also kept doing the things I was doing. And it did start to rub off.
1.5 years later we had twins and then suddenly we had 3 children under the age of 2. Yes and I did tell that story more, because then it really started to chafe. Because then you end up somewhere you know, a conflict is created. Of course that was already there, only then I became more and more aware of it.
What kind of parent are you becoming?
I thought, "Okay, now I can do two things: 1 you continue your life as it is, with a very high probability that my family will fall apart, or 2, I change and I increase the chances of everyone staying together. " That's 1 and 2: "What kind of father do you want to be? Do you want to be a father who drinks and does drugs or do you not want to be that kind of father?' Well I didn't want to be that kind of father, not the way I did.
I don’t really have an opinion on whether someone drinks or uses drugs and has children—that’s up to each person to decide. But for myself, I thought: “I just don’t want to be like that; I don’t want to set that kind of example.” It all started to weigh on me, and fortunately, I received help. You could say I was given a second chance, so to speak, when I had a moment of clarity on January 2, 2005. A shaman once called that a “walk-in” from my twin soul. I don’t know if all of that is true, but what I do know is this: at that moment, I truly changed. My appearance changed, too. My eyes were different; my hair color changed. It was real—I used to have dark blond hair, and now it’s black. I used to have long hair, but I cut it off, and I saw a different person. I took out my earrings—everything. I had become a different person.
Well, whether it was a twin soul who performed the “Walk-in” and took over, or whether I was helped by the grace of God —that’s what I call it—or whether I simply resolved my unconscious conflict there, or whether the pain was so great that it finally triggered a shift that allowed me to change. Or “All of the above.” Whatever it is, it is, but yeah, I got lucky. That’s how it feels to me—that that “help” resolved my enormous unconscious conflict.
Copying Children
The interesting thing is that, yes, he’s 19 now. For me, the trouble started when I was 16. And for him, too—almost—I saw it happening. There were a few little things that matched up exactly. It’s funny, but also really scary. I had a girlfriend when I was 16, but she’d first been with my best friend, then with me, then back with my best friend again. Well, let’s just say that didn’t go over very well. We got into a fight, and at some point she just started dating someone else again. But we got into a fight, and at that moment I also became very depressed over the fact that she had rejected me . I had suicidal thoughts and even wanted to kill myself—well, that didn’t work out. And very shortly after that, I got into drugs and alcohol, and that’s when I went down a path where I could numb myself perfectly.
When he turned 16, he also had a best friend, who had a girlfriend. And a moped that he did ride on the back of. And my best friend also had a moped that I sat on the back of. That went out and that girl that first went with him, but then back to that friend. And I saw it in his face, he changed completely. He also started thinking and doing crazy things. I felt in me as if a trauma was passed on, as if we came to a crossroads - yes that sounds very abstract maybe - in which my generational trauma occurred. I then found that out, because I thought 'Yes, this was already not mine' and now that's just being passed on to my son. And I saw it change. I saw the image of where he would then go. Into the future, hanging out in the coffee shop and a path going in a dark direction. 'Shit, I thought I solved that already,' but I didn't.
Resolve your own trauma
I solved that then, I can happily. Once it's conscious, I can resolve it. And after that it was gone, that trauma is never passed on. Not to him, not to my other sons either. That's fascinating, so a next life it's not going to happen again. So a next life, in this case my sons life, that whole trauma is not going to happen again. That trauma is from the information of the universe. The universe is made up of information. Everything is 1 = Chi. But 1 = Chi is also information. Everything is information, and that information is never lost, but it can be changed. That whole information file is formatted, so there is nothing of it at all. Except that the content of the information is gone, but the information itself is just still there. That is not lost, the hard drive remains, only the hard drive is empty.
So this is how you can solve the next life, but someone else's. But when you look - and this may be a very abstract side path, so hold on tight - but you can also solve things in an next life of your own. Which is also a very interesting idea, when you go, say, into hypnosis and instead of reincarnation you do a pro-incarnation - to put it that way. A progression, into the future, into your next life. And discover there what the conflict is there and resolve that, then you will have some use for it now.
My experiment with pro-incarnation
Let me give an example from my own life: When I discovered this phenomenon—I was just experimenting a bit with a colleague—I said,“If we can go to past lives, then we can also go to future lives.” Because everything is now. This was years ago. I said, “Well, let’s just try that.” He’s good at hypnosis, and so am I, so we decided to give it a try. And it worked perfectly. So I went into future lives, and he went into future lives too. And the interesting thing is: what we discovered is that every life has a theme. In every life, a theme plays out. That was our realization. In past lives you have a theme; in future lives you also have themes. One of my themes in a future life was loneliness. And loneliness in the sense that—I was still around in the year 2300; it was a big commune, you know. A completely different world—nature was everywhere, everyone was dressed in white, no one had parents because everyone raised the children together; it was just a carefree, happy place—there was peace, truly a community where nothing really happened, where everything was peaceful—and I felt very lonely there. Because I didn’t have parents; I was basically alone, but then again, not really. So I was in a group with all these people who loved you, so to speak, yet I was alone. Because, well, I didn’t have anyone else. It wasn’t supposed to be that way at all, because that’s not how things were meant to be.
And so there was a theme of loneliness there, I resolved that there. That was very much on the surface there, I resolved that. I came back into this life, and I felt in myself that something had been resolved on a very deep level. That is very strange how I say it but imagine.... If you are now, yes you are living your life. You have a kind of baseline of feelings, ideas, thoughts. You are used to that, you are used to that foundation. You're used to yourself and how you react and how you are. And that's say your 0-line, you're not going to think about that. Imagine it's going okay, it's going just fine. Then you're not going to think, 'Gee, what's not going well.' Because it's going okay with you, it's going fine.
But at that moment when I returned to this life, my 0-line had changed. I thought "Hey, there's something freer," there was more space. I felt better. So I thought 'That's special because I didn't even know I felt bad'. Because I felt fine, but still I felt better. 'Hmm, this is fascinating'. So in all these other lives - which are now being lived - next and previous to make it extra confusing. Are there all themes that are consciously living on the surface, and being played out there, but NOW unconsciously, under your surface now also playing out. Only you don't realize it, because it is unconscious and below the surface.
And so that's where you can go to become aware of unconscious conflicts. So that's a great model to make you aware of those unconscious conflicts. For example, when something is not working out. But also maybe when things are going fine, you can still take a look to see if you can do even better. That's also an idea, of course, so take advantage of it, go with it. Go try it for yourself, go do it and let me know how it goes.
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