So how do you do it?
19 years ago at 7 a.m. on March 15, I was doing something very different. My wife who was having contractions, I didn't believe it at first. I thought "Yeah, let it go. Because I was just laying there, I had spent the night, with a friend of mine. And yes my son, he wasn't due yet, so I thought, 'That will take a while'. But I couldn't go to sleep anyway, because at half past 1:30 on March 15, he was born. My oldest son.
Anyway, that's cool, so I hung up the streamers this morning with 19 balloons, will like that one. Anyway, he's 19, he doesn't necessarily see a garland of balloons, but well that's why I do it. But that aside, at least 19 years ago, I was very different: I was still half drunk at that moment when the contractions came, in the hospital I fell asleep, because I had not slept enough. I was really completely broke when he came into the world. And yes, I really thought at that time - I was 27 - of 'Well, when you have a child then everything becomes different.' Then everything is different. It's automatic, then you stop all the crazy stuff. Then you stop going through and weekends away. And with weekends away I don't mean weekends away with your wife, no, just partying until you drop. But that didn't happen. Nothing really changed, except that I had less sleep. I kept working, of course, but I also kept doing the things I was doing. And it did start to rub off.
1.5 years later we had twins and then suddenly we had 3 children under the age of 2. Yes and I did tell that story more, because then it really started to chafe. Because then you end up somewhere you know, a conflict is created. Of course that was already there, only then I became more and more aware of it.
What kind of parent are you becoming?
I thought, "Okay, now I can do two things: 1 you continue your life as it is, with a very high probability that my family will fall apart, or 2, I change and I increase the chances of everyone staying together. " That's 1 and 2: "What kind of father do you want to be? Do you want to be a father who drinks and does drugs or do you not want to be that kind of father?' Well I didn't want to be that kind of father, not the way I did.
I have no further judgment if someone does drink or use drugs and has children; that's up to everyone. But for myself, I thought, "I just don't want to be like that, I don't want to set that example. It all started to rub off a bit and I was fortunately helped. I got grace, so to speak, you might say, by getting a moment on January 2, 2005. A shamanist once called that a "Walk-in" from my twin soul. I don't know if that is all true, but what I do know: at that moment I really changed. My appearance, too. My eyes were different, my hair color became different. It was real, because I had dark blond hair and it is now black. I had long hair and cut my hair off and I saw a different person. Earrings out, everything. I had become a different person.
Well well, whether it was a twin soul that did the 'Walk-in' and took over or whether I was helped by the grace of God - that's what I call it - or whether I just resolved my unconscious conflict there, or whether the pain was so great that a lever was finally triggered that I could change. Or "All of the above. Which it is, it is, but yes I was lucky. That's how it feels to me, that that 'help' resolved my huge unconscious conflict.
Copying Children
The interesting thing is that, yes now that's 19. At 16 the misery started for me. And with him almost too, I saw it happen. There were a few little things that matched exactly. It's funny, but also very frightening. I had a girlfriend when I was 16, but she had first been with my best friend, then with me, then with my best friend again. Well that didn't get very cozy so to speak. We got into a fight and at one point she just went with someone else again. But we got into a fight and at that time I also got very depressed by the fact that she had rejected me . I got suicidal and wanted to kill myself too, well I didn't succeed. And very shortly after that I got into drugs and drink and then I went down a path and was able to numb myself perfectly.
When he turned 16, he also had a best friend, who had a girlfriend. And a moped that he did ride on the back of. And my best friend also had a moped that I sat on the back of. That went out and that girl that first went with him, but then back to that friend. And I saw it in his face, he changed completely. He also started thinking and doing crazy things. I felt in me as if a trauma was passed on, as if we came to a crossroads - yes that sounds very abstract maybe - in which my generational trauma occurred. I then found that out, because I thought 'Yes, this was already not mine' and now that's just being passed on to my son. And I saw it change. I saw the image of where he would then go. Into the future, hanging out in the coffee shop and a path going in a dark direction. 'Shit, I thought I solved that already,' but I didn't.
Resolve your own trauma
I solved that then, I can happily. Once it's conscious, I can resolve it. And after that it was gone, that trauma is never passed on. Not to him, not to my other sons either. That's fascinating, so a next life it's not going to happen again. So a next life, in this case my sons life, that whole trauma is not going to happen again. That trauma is from the information of the universe. The universe is made up of information. Everything is 1 = Chi. But 1 = Chi is also information. Everything is information, and that information is never lost, but it can be changed. That whole information file is formatted, so there is nothing of it at all. Except that the content of the information is gone, but the information itself is just still there. That is not lost, the hard drive remains, only the hard drive is empty.
So this is how you can solve the next life, but someone else's. But when you look - and this may be a very abstract side path, so hold on tight - but you can also solve things in an next life of your own. Which is also a very interesting idea, when you go, say, into hypnosis and instead of reincarnation you do a pro-incarnation - to put it that way. A progression, into the future, into your next life. And discover what is the conflict there and resolve that, then you will have some use for it now.
My experiment with pro-incarnation
Let me give an example from my own life: When I discovered this phenomenon - I was just experimenting a bit with a colleague -, I said, "If we can go to past lives, then we can also go to next lives." Because everything is now. This was years ago. I say 'Well let's just try that'. He's good at hypnosis, so am I, well we were going to try that. And it worked perfectly. So I came I in next lives, he also came in next lives. And the interesting thing is: what we discovered is that every life has a theme. In every life there is a theme. That was our realization. In past lives you have a theme, in subsequent lives you also have themes. One of my themes in a next life was loneliness. And loneliness in the sense of - I was in 2300 something, it was a whole commune, you know. A whole other world, there was nature everywhere, everybody was in white, nobody had parents because everybody was raising the kids, it was just a freedom-joy, there was peace, really a community where nothing happened actually, where it was all peaceful-and I felt very lonely there. Because I didn't have any parents, I was basically alone, but not actually. So I was in a group with all the people who love you say, alone. Because yes, I had no one else. It wasn't meant to be at all, because it wasn't supposed to be that way.
And so there was a theme of loneliness there, I resolved that there. That was very much on the surface there, I resolved that. I came back into this life, and I felt in myself that something had been resolved on a very deep level. That is very strange how I say it but imagine.... If you are now, yes you are living your life. You have a kind of baseline of feelings, ideas, thoughts. You are used to that, you are used to that foundation. You're used to yourself and how you react and how you are. And that's say your 0-line, you're not going to think about that. Imagine it's going okay, it's going just fine. Then you're not going to think, 'Gee, what's not going well.' Because it's going okay with you, it's going fine.
But at that moment when I returned to this life, my 0-line had changed. I thought "Hey, there's something freer," there was more space. I felt better. So I thought 'That's special because I didn't even know I felt bad'. Because I felt fine, but still I felt better. 'Hmm, this is fascinating'. So in all these other lives - which are now being lived - next and previous to make it extra confusing. Are there all themes that are consciously living on the surface, and being played out there, but NOW unconsciously, under your surface now also playing out. Only you don't realize it, because it is unconscious and below the surface.
And so that's where you can go to become aware of unconscious conflicts. So that's a great model to make you aware of those unconscious conflicts. For example, when something is not working out. But also maybe if things are going fine, then you can still take a look and see if you can do even better. This is also an idea, of course, so take advantage of it, go with it. Go try it for yourself, go do it and let me know how it goes.
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