Life is a journey you have not chosen. You were dropped onto this beautiful world and then you must complete that journey to the end. Unfortunately, the journey does not always go by a babbling brook, but sometimes there are rapids. You may even feel like you have fallen into a waterfall. Still, there are many lessons you can take away from your life for the future.
Therefore, in this blog I want to focus on life lessons and how you can learn things from yourself for the rest of your life.
I've had an eventful life and I can tell you all sorts of things about what I've learned from it, but my life is not yours and my character doesn't have to be the same. As a result, my life lessons may well be of no use to you at all, yet there are a few things you can do that will help you draw lessons from your own life just as I do.
Define what success means to you
To live a successful and happy life , it is important to consider for yourself what this means for you. Society sometimes already seems to create a clear picture of what a successful life is, namely a job, a family and your own home. But that is an image that not everyone sees as successful or as something that makes you happy.
Multicultural research shows that countries have different perceptions of success. For example, people from Singapore think the quality of life is better if you also have a lot of material. That means a high income and possessions. Surprisingly, this was not true among Americans or at least to a lesser extent than people from Singapore(1).
For one person, house, tree, critter does indeed mean success, but for another, traveling the world can be a sign of success, and yet another person considers themselves successful if they have a home on a tropical island. So it can go either way, but it is something you have to determine for yourself.
Motivate yourself
Achieving success unfortunately never happens in a smooth line and, as a result, you can become demotivated. If you want to achieve something, it is still important to motivate yourself to take the steps you need to take.
Passion
You can make this easier by following a passion. Before I started with hypnosis I also just had a job and did my thing, but when I was introduced to hypnosis I came across my passion. This is what I found and find so amazing. The way it works, the ways you can apply it and the problems you can solve with it.
Finding my passion has made it a lot easier for myself to motivate myself to do my best every day than if I had still had a job that had not been my passion.
Don't feel like you know what your passion is? That's possible; I also didn't encounter my passion until later in life. By trying new things you can find out what your passion is. It can also be knitting, it can be anything.
Explore what talents you have
If something comes easily to you, it is less effort to do something with it. In the process, this talent can also be your passion. If you have a talent for writing, photography, sports or something similar you can see if that talent can help you achieve success.
Meditation
Meditating is something many successful people do. By meditating for 10 minutes every morning, you reduce your stress. In addition, while meditating you can get all kinds of ideas about how you are going to tackle something. Therefore, always put a pen and notebook near you so as not to forget any idea.
Set intermediate goals
In the process, you can also make success more attainable. You can set intermediate goals to get closer to achieving success. Then every time you achieve such an intermediate goal, you have a small moment of success that you can celebrate.
This makes you a lot less likely to give up on achieving the success image you have.
The chances of achieving your vision of success are thus greatly increased.
Overcome blockages
Sometimes you can have a setback that causes it to block your behavior in the future. You won't do something again because it once went badly, but sometimes a blockage is also just procrastination.
There are multiple ways you can overcome blockages to doing anything.
Mindfulness
Mindfulness allows you to live in the here and now and focus on your task at hand. By applying mindfulness when you are busy taking steps toward achieving your goal, you will avoid getting distracted or at least notice it faster.
This will help you stay on top of things and therefore you'll actually work toward your goal a lot faster.
Regression Therapy
Do you have a block to doing something that can't be solved by mindfulness? Then hypnotherapy may be a solution. For example, a block can also be the idea that you are not good enough to achieve your own goals. This is actually a great shame because this is simply not true.
Through regression , you can work with the hypnotherapist to explore when a blockage occurred and how that created beliefs that don't actually help you at all.
In addition, revisiting that experience allows you to experience it from a different point of view, which in turn can provide new insights and release the block.
Be social
Did you know that George W. Bush, okay maybe not the most successful or popular U.S. president, was good at acting socially. This may well be why he had just enough votes to become president. He doesn't seem to have been great in college subjects, but he knew everyone's name. Building good connections can give you useful connections that can help you achieve success.
Engage in social connections
Ultimately, we humans are group animals. The reason we are so successful as a species and at the top of the food chain is because we work well together. Therefore, it is always wise to try to remember the names when you meet new people. Then you can also make a connection on social media. Who knows when it will come in handy!
Help Another
One way to become happy and successful is to help another person. With my institute, I help other people all day long and you get something in return. For some, helping another person means getting money, and for others it means a better relationship with that person. If this helps with your vision of success, it certainly can't hurt to help another person for a change.
Be trustworthy
As a child, you learn not to break promises. Because success often depends on working with other people, it is important that you are seen as a trustworthy person. By doing what you say you will make sure people trust you. This reduces your exposure to negative gossip that can work against your success.
In fact, multiple studies show that reliability is a more important factor for success than intelligence (2, 3). This, of course, may be where the English saying "Hard work beats talent" comes from.
Achieving a successful and happy life is not always something that happens automatically. Many factors depend on it and first and foremost is determining what you consider success. This can be small and big, but it is important that what is considered success for you is also something that makes you happy.
In addition, it is important to actually take steps to achieve that success and not put it off. With that, being able to motivate yourself is very important. Fortunately, there are several ways to do this.
Sometimes on the road to success you encounter a roadblock. People who are successful often know how to overcome them, even if the blockage is actually a personal problem. For this you can often get psychological help, but sometimes a little mindfulness is enough.
You should also remember that success is usually best achieved through collaboration with others. Sometimes you need something you don't have yourself and if others can help you then that is a plus. For this, it is important that you make social connections and be reliable. And most importantly, keep convincing yourself that reliability and boundless commitment are more important than the IQ you have for achieving success.
Want to know how hypnosis can help with success? Then come to a workshop, seminar or enroll in our training.
Sources:
http://ecsocman.hse.ru/text/19162767/
http://jcc.sagepub.com/content/early/2012/01/30/0022022111432292.abstract
http://www.jstor.org/stable/2677749?seq=1#page_scan_tab_contents
