Emotional intelligence training can be incredibly useful for your success in social situations. So how does this actually work? Are you a bit weird and find it difficult to assess how someone is feeling or what the person needs from you at that moment, but want to be better at this? Then training your emotional intelligence is a good idea.
In this blog article, we will discuss what emotional intelligence is, in what situations it can help you for certain successes, how to train your emotional intelligence and in what ways hypnosis can help you as well.
Helpful right? Read on quickly...
What is EQ?
EQ is the abbreviation for emotional intelligence quotient. Just like IQ stands for intelligence quotient. This is a certain score. The average IQ, for example, is 100 according to that IQ score and says something about the understanding people have of such things as mathematical calculations and general knowledge.
So for EQ, you can get a score in terms of your understanding of emotions in others and how to act in certain social situations.
Where a person's IQ can go as high as 200, the maximum score for EQ is 80. From 0-32 you have low EQ and from 33-52 you have average EQ. Women score an average of 47 and men score 42[1].
If you are emotionally intelligent you can:
Identify, name, understand, control and use emotions[2]. Not only for yourself, but also for others and even in groups[3].
Why is emotional intelligence important?
We are social beings and that means working together to get things done in life. At the same time, we are not robots and instead are beings with emotions that in turn affect our behavior. If you understand that, it makes working together with other people easier.
In doing so, it is also important to have an understanding of your own emotions and behavior. In fact, the better your emotional intelligence is, the healthier you are[4]. This is probably because you can then also handle stress better. The connection is also greatest when it comes to mental health, but there is still a connection for your physical health as well.
In the process, it is important for your personal relationships and even success at work (source 2).
When you train emotional intelligence to improve your work it often helps to improve the following things:
- Collaborations
- Conflict Resolution
- Coaching Skills
- Job satisfaction
- How to easily find and hold a new job
As a teacher, it can improve your teaching skills (source 2).
Emotional intelligence and autism
Just a separate piece on emotional intelligence and autism. People with autism are often not as good at certain facets of emotional intelligence, namely not being able to properly assess others' emotions and therefore being socially awkward[5].
Assessing their own emotions can also be tricky, because emotions also give you guidance on how to behave.
What's interesting is that when behavioral problems develop in someone with autism, it often has a relationship to negative parenting as well. (As with "normal" children)
Problems that can arise when they do not know how to manage their emotions well are:
- Repeat Actions
- Being very rigid
- Apathy
Negative emotions they find most difficult to recognize. So they can't always tell when someone is angry (at them).
Mindfulness and even training with robots that simulate emotions can help people with autism gain more control over their emotions and behavior (source 5).
Leadership and emotional intelligence
Because EQ can do something for collaborations and coaching skills, this can also be useful if you are a leader, such as team manager.
In modern society, especially in the Netherlands, it doesn't work to be some kind of dictatorial leader. You need a little more finesse than that, and for that, emotional intelligence is important[6].
Leaders today, therefore, more often have the role of mentor and coach. They are also tasked with seeing the individual in the workplace, as well as fostering a team spirit.
Research also shows that the more emotionally intelligent managers are, the more successful the team they manage is.
Emotional intelligence training
So plenty of reason to train your emotional intelligence. It can bring many great opportunities, both personally and professionally.
If you want to train your emotional intelligence, it is important to pay attention to:
Self-Awareness
One way to improve your self-awareness is to keep a journal. In addition, when faced with negative emotions or other strong emotions, you can take a step back and consider why you feel the way you do and then realize that you decide how you behave. It's all a choice.
With hypnotherapy, you can also gain interesting insights about yourself and why you do what you do[7]. So if you can't get there with a journal, a hypnotherapist can help with this as well.
Self-Control
Self-control is important for staying calm and not making impulsive decisions you later regret. It also prevents aggressive behavior.
To improve your self-control, it is good to be aware of what values you want to live by. What do you think is important? How do you want to be? Based on that, you can then adjust your behavior.
Hypnotherapy also allows you to practice about how you react in certain situations or to certain triggers. This not only helps with emotion eating, but it also helps when you want to calmly engage in a discussion with a colleague.
It also helps if you stop blaming other people for when things go wrong and instead look at your own role and what you can do differently in similar situations in the future.
That, in turn, is where hypnotherapy helps.
Social Consciousness
By social awareness, you can think of empathy and empathy. In difficult situations, many people look primarily at their own point of view, but put yourself in the other person's shoes and how they feel? Then problems can suddenly become very logical and a solution can be found more easily.
In many hypnotherapy techniques, empathizing with another person also plays an important role. So this can also be practiced with a hypnotherapist to the point where you can empathize with the other person faster than before. As a result, you come to a solution faster, simply because you are more socially aware.
This includes tricks such as paying attention to a person's body language and intonation. If you want to become a hypnotherapist, these physical cues also play an important role in becoming a good hypnotherapist.
This can also come in handy if you have a coaching role at work or in your family.
In fact, you can then respond well to others' feelings, especially if you see that what they are feeling does not match what they are saying. Then you can discuss that.
Social Skills
Your social skills are about how you communicate with those around you. For example, whether you yourself make your boundaries clear, but also whether you compliment people when they deserve it.
Barriers to good communication can be found out and removed with hypnotherapy. Research shows that in adolescents with behavioral problems, hypnotherapy improves their communication skills[8].
For example, if something makes it difficult for you to give compliments or say what you feel or really see, a hypnotherapist can help you identify and change those barriers .
For example, maybe you learned as a child to stay quiet when you actually feel something you need to say, because you got negative reactions from your parents when you did this, for example.
The regression technique can be very helpful in figuring out these types of situations. Then, a variety of hypnosis techniques can be used to remove the limiting belief and to get the very belief that does allow you to communicate well how you feel and what ideas you have to improve certain things[9].
Learning hypnosis for your EQ
Learning hypnosis can also be great for gaining a better understanding of how people feel and having the tools to help yourself and others deal with emotions.
If you want to become a hypnosis practitioner it is important to take all of the HIN's training courses, do you just want to improve your skills and EQ? You can do that even with just the first training.
You can take the trainings in class and live online. Ideal if you have a weekend away, or if you don't even live in the Netherlands.
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