Two Matchless Language Patterns

For therapy and coaching, there is a combination that works perfectly. That combination is NLP and Hypnosis. NLP is a way to sneak in Hypnosis, only you don't have to anymore. Still, you can use it to good effect to make your coaching (or communication) even more effective. But how can you use it?

Hypnosis, NLP and Communication

Hypnosis and NLP are communication tools. They are ways of communicating with people. When you combine the two methods you get incredible language patterns that you can use immediately.

One model from NLP that you also use in hypnosis is the Milton Model, named after legendary hypnotherapist Milton Erickson. In that model, you learn the language patterns that Erickson also used to put his clients into trance. In NLP, however, you learn to use it as a communication model and not to hypnotize.

And that's what I want to advise you. By hypnotize, I don't mean the standard idea of "Close your eyes and sleep...deeper and deeper" or anything like that. I mean having a hypnotic effect with your communication. That it becomes irresistible so that you become more effective in your communication.

There are some patterns that are easy to learn. I also teach people these in the one-day workshop. These patterns are used in advertising, sales and by good teachers and teachers.

So what are these patterns?

I explain two that you can start applying immediately. The other patterns need more Hypnosis and NLP training, but these patterns are top notch and also very easy.

The first language pattern ...

The first language pattern is a sentence structure you can 't say no to. Or at least very difficult. It works great with my kids, and it's a pattern that good teachers and teachers also use. It's called the "three-questions-in-one" construction.

And it goes like this....

'Would you like to take your clothes to your room, go get dressed, and then immediately afterwards grab the cookies for coffee?'

It's three questions in one and it's hard to say no to that, because what are you going to say no to. To the cookies? To getting dressed up? Or to the clothes? A yes is easier. And it happens a lot more often ;-)

Give it a try and post your reactions below. Seems like fun to hear how it goes.

The second language pattern

The second pattern is the word "want. Yes, it is. Just that little word can make a huge difference.

The book Influence by Cialdini (highly recommended...) shows that the word because has a huge effect on people.

Ellen Langer, a social psychologist at Harvard University, did some fascinating research in 1977. In the university library, she joined the line in front of the copier and asked, "Sorry, I only have five pages. Could I use the copy machine? After all, I'm in a hurry.' Almost everyone, namely 94 percent of those waiting, let her go ahead.

When she did the same without giving a reason, only 60 percent turned out ahead of her. Then again, that's to be expected, right? People are more likely to let you get ahead if you give a good reason, but her third attempt, however, was extraordinary.

Arriving at the copy machine now, she asked, "Excuse me may I go ahead, as I want to make some copies?

Of course, she had to make copies. What else that such a device for. A strange reason, but guess what? In 93 percent of cases, people let her go ahead. The reason used to support the request turned out not to matter. Giving a reason - any reason - sufficed. And the word because is the magic word in this....

Experiment with it and I'd love to hear what you think. Hypnosis and NLP has a lot to offer in this. If you think others in your network (Facebook, Linkedin or Twitter) would benefit from this as well, please send them here.

Leave a comment below what you think....