I came home after a long day of work in construction. We had one son and he was around a year and a half old. At that time, I often had huge anger attacks. This resulted in holes in the wall, door and it sometimes even resulted in the door hanging half out.
Fortunately, I worked in construction, so I always fixed that then. There was always something to do
I made sure my little son didn't see that. Either he was asleep, or I went outside to bang on something there (never on anyone), or I did it in the bedroom.
Until that day...
I walked upstairs and saw my little son with a stoic face kicking his crib together. He didn't look angry, but he was reacting "something" to that crib. Such a sweet little man behaving violently. Not from anger, but from something else.
For me, it was clear. He does me.
Not that he was imitatingme. He had never seen it before. No, he does me, he is me. It was immediately clear to me that I needed to resolve this within myself.
And I did. Never had another tantrum involving holes in doors. And my little son never kicked his crib again, either.
You pass on everything. The good things, but also those things you anxiously want to keep hidden from your children. I'll tell you one thing, that doesn't work. The only thing you achieve is that they will then also fearfully keep things hidden. They are you.
Sounds scary, is actually an opportunity. Because so when you start working on yourself you pass on less of those things you want to pass on. Everything you pass on, so if you start working on yourself then you pass on that too.
Patterns are easiest to discover in hypnosis. For me, discovering patterns is the most difficult thing. They are blind spots. Resolving them is done in ten minutes.
For most people, resolution is the hardest part because they don't know how. Really, study these kinds of techniques. Not only for you, but also for your children...(check the link)
