Patience is a virtue: and here's why

It is sometimes said, "Patience is a virtue." But why is that really so? Why is being patient sometimes better for you? Some time ago, I heard a podcast where they talked about infinite patience.

Because if you practice infinitely intended, then everything is okay. Because then it doesn't have to be now, because you know it will happen anyway ( especially now that everything is now).

With me, that message resonated very much.

What is patience?

Patience is actually an action to ensure that you gain an advantage in the future. For example, you wait for an avocado to ripen before you eat it and you do so with patience. You wait for a new phone you want for several months until the price drops and you can afford it more easily[1].

Wait or chase

So patience is really about waiting for a better moment instead of wanting something right now and actively trying to make it happen. I’m one of those people, too, and I’m getting better and better at letting go.

I often struggle to get something done on willpower or strength anyway. That never actually works that well.

I got this from writing my book as well. The book "You don't have it you do it," I wrote about that for 1.5 years and most of the writing was done in a weekend in a hotel in Noordwijk. There I wrote eighty to ninety percent of the book in two days and in the rest of the time I wrote the rest of the book.

But mainly, I just didn’t feel like writing. It was all slow and laborious. But in those two days, it all just poured out.

Now I know there are projects that are in my head and body that need to get out. Those are going to come out. Now I would like it to happen now or actually last week it should have happened already. For example, I am working on a free master class and I have written it quite far by now and now suddenly it stops. I feel by everything that I don't feel like it, then it stops too.

I used to get frustrated and go at it on strength. I don't do that anymore.

Also at the beginning of the year.

Last year, we had been working hard. Corona came, we had to switch over and start doing everything online. But in January, I felt very tired. I didn't feel like doing anything but sessions.

Then I started doing a lot of sessions—on Instagram and Clubhouse—and I knew that at some point it would all come to an end. But at the time, I was really looking forward to it.

Many people then said of: "Geez what content you create, what a lot you're doing." Whereas those sessions were all I was doing and I was doing it well.

I wish you the same.

Patience for the flurry of energy

So infinite patience. So what if you never die? Sure, your form changes, but what if you continue infinitely? Your essence. The form Edwin disappears, but the essence of Edwin does not. So if it never disappears, it is infinity. Infinite love and infinite patience. You can have that, because it comes by itself.

When it comes then you will do it, because you are the hands and feet of God, of yourself, of the source, of the universe. It's just what name you give it, I give it the name God.

When that God inspires you, that energy is given into your mind of "Yes, now you just have to. Go!" The question of why am I doing this and what is it good for is irrelevant.

After a month of sessions, I did get that in my head. Yes I can use it as content, but I can also use it for a new online course where you're going to dissect those sessions so that as a hypnotherapist you can find out what you're actually doing. That was the answer.

Awesome, when is that course coming? I have no idea, but I have infinite patience.

I know it’s coming, and that feeling is liberating. Infinite patience makes me feel incredibly relaxed.

It doesn't have to be now. I don't necessarily have to do anything right now, but may be patient for what is to come. That moment when you suddenly have a surge of energy to implement that idea.

It's going to come as an idea, a feeling, a thought, an image. It doesn't matter. You wake up one day or you're lying on the couch and suddenly it's, "Now I'm going to build a vegetable garden." Then suddenly there's a vegetable garden and then something happens that makes you think, "Oh, that's why I had to do that vegetable garden."

For example, my son received dietary advice for his health. We don't eat poorly, but there's always room for improvement, and now all of a sudden a switch went off for him.

My wife and I had often wanted to cook healthier meals, but we didn't really have a reason to do so. It was all just fine.

Good is often the enemy of better, though, because why improve something when it's going well? If it's going badly, there's more likely to be a reason to get it right again, but once it's going well, why improve? That is the pitfall of many things.

So when my son received advice for his health, a button flipped on him. Because if I had said it, he would have been resistant, because it's just Dad. But now someone else was saying it and the button went off with him and with us too. Suddenly everything went much easier.

The idea was there, but the execution was not. And that execution was suddenly much easier now.

The question is, can you wait for the right time? It is always now and there is a moment in the now that is the right thing. Then suddenly it feels easy.

When you can say you have infinite patience, it's so nice and relaxing.

For example, you get an idea and you nurture it. You have infinite patience to implement the idea.

After all, you are in this self-created reality and together you are creating something amazing. That's interesting, but do you have infinite patience to wait for the right moment?

That's what I want to give you.

Be sure to listen to this podcast as well:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6AQ4X1nKxiPa5COWLDyBo1?si=y7ouoZYzRC6G3I0YpIgnrw

Patience in modern society

In today's society, we have many stimuli that can make it difficult to exercise patience. You have all kinds of social and technical incentives to do something now[2]. If you make more money now you are more likely to be seen as successful and could be "happier." If you show on social media what you are doing now people see how cool you are.

This is why sometimes it is so helpful to put your phone aside for a moment and have me-time. Just enjoy the flowers and the sun shining.

Patience also gives you time to get ideas. It's sometimes the very calm that makes you inspired.

For example, art students are sometimes given the task of looking at a painting for three hours. This is another task that requires patience. It ensures that you not only look at the painting, but also see it. Having patience and looking closely at your surroundings can sometimes give you completely different ideas than if you are always in a hurry.

Help to become more patient

But what if - despite the great start to this blog - you still find it difficult to relax and see how everything is going? So where does that come from? Where does your rush to get projects done come from, and how good is this actually for you?

This is something you can figure out with hypnotherapy. For example, you can have a conversation while in hypnosis in which the why question is repeated several times to get to the core of your beliefs that are making it difficult for you to be patient.

Sometimes by repeating that belief in a funny way you can then stop the belief already. Just ridicule it when you can already see that the belief does not actually make sense. That already makes it a lot less powerful.

In addition , you can also use regression. With regression, you go back to the very first moment when you got the idea that patience isn’t a virtue, but that it’s better to hurry. Then, with the help of the hypnotherapist, you reinterpret that moment. That way, you can easily change that belief.

Also, you can use helpful affirmations to start your day with, for example. Affirmations such as:

It comes when it comes.

The energy to do it comes at the right time.

My plans come to fruition at a cosmically chosen time.

These are just examples. Depending on your beliefs, you may receive different suggestions than those in this example.

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