A problem is a problem because you leave out everything else

The Harry Potter Spin...

Yesterday I gave a training session and one of the topics was focus. The idea that you only have a problem because you leave out everything else that is not the problem.

That's an interesting sentence don't you think?

You see it in people who are afraid of a spider, for example. Essentially makes perfect sense if you understand what they are doing in their head.

Can you imagine the New York skyline, can you picture it?

I'm sure they do, right?

And that picture then has a certain size. Now imagine taking New York out and cramming spider in there. That that spider fills that whole image.

Then you automatically get scared - who doesn't from a spider as big as New York. Simple.

This is phobia's strategy. Making things bigger than they really are. You don't do that consciously, of course; you do it all unconsciously. Somewhere you learned to do it that way.

Probably because of a moment in your life. We did a regression once and a client of mine came to the moment when she was about a year old and was playing nicely with a spider. Mom came in and screamed, "Ah a spider!!! And knocked the critter off her arm.

Since then, she was also scared.

But then when asked how you see that spin now, it's always bigger. Why? He is important to you.

Important? I don't want that at all, I get that, but something you're afraid of makes you important because it can cause danger. And danger you want to avoid so it's important that you know where the danger is. So subconsciously you are always looking....

People who aren't afraid of that don't get it. They see that little critter. They don't see that you have turned it into a Harry Potter spider in your head.

If you would do the same as those people, fear will disappear. How you do that? By starting to fill the picture with stuff, for example.

So you see the spider in the picture; do you also see a table? Ehm.... Now you do.

And that table is in a room. And in that room is a sofa, a chair, a painting hanging, and so on. The more stuff that has to be added to that picture, the more that spider has to move, so to speak. It automatically gets smaller.

The focus goes off and the fear disappears. It may not succeed right away the first time, but first times are usually not a success... 😉

In Love ❤️